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The key, experts say, is to set boundaries and enforce them.
Chores, allowances and summer jobs (preferably manual labor to teach empathy and perspective) all help show kids the link between actions and consequences – a critical ingredient for empowered children and adults, Taylor says. "Spoiled children are fundamentally scared children because they have no real control of their lives. Their actions don't matter. And a fundamental component to mental health is the belief that we have control over our lives ... If something's not going well, we can do something about it."