3. Don't avoid the hairdresser.
If you do decide to break up with your hairdresser, don't duck into a different aisle if you see her in the grocery store, Gottsman says. Instead, say hello. "It puts everybody at ease," she says. "There is power in addressing a situation positively." Plus, you'll feel good about doing the right thing. "All we can do is be responsible for our own behavior."
4. Do give your stylist a second chance. Don't give much more.
Holding out hope while holding your tongue doesn't pay off, experts say. What happens instead is women are "unhappy over and over and over again," Gottsman says. It's like the sensibility that strikes in Vegas, where people "keep going, going, going, because you think you're gonna win, win, win," she says.
For starters, the hairdresser may not know you don't like what she or he is doing. Secondly, your feedback gives the stylist an opportunity to address your concerns. And that way, if the concerns aren't met, you've given notice. "It helps to have that heads up already, so it's not coming out of left field," Speyer says.
[See How to Survive a Breakup.]
5. Do consider your delivery.
"You don't have to do it in person," Speyer says. But you do have to do it with class. You are ending a relationship after all, albeit a business one.
Speyer recommends snail mailing your hairdresser a card that wishes her well. And if the relationship requires more than that, you might up the parting gift. For example, when Speyer was asked how to handle breaking up with a hairdresser someone had seen for 60 years, she suggested sending flowers.
[See The Secret to Gift Giving.]