Why the Fascination with Twilight?

Why the fascination with Twilight, and what to do when your fantasy life trumps your real one.

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While it's important to recognize adulation that's gone too far, fantasy can serve a purpose.

"What you can take from the film is the idea that everybody longs to find deep emotional connection with another person that they're in relationship with," says Dardashti, who notes that this desire is universal among her male and female clients, even though only women came forward for her documentary.

A strong emotional response to a movie such as Twilight can help someone realize what may be missing and what may be possible in life. That can only be achieved, however, by exploring those issues, not by escaping to find that rush in fiction.

As Fischoff puts it, some people would "rather live in the reel world than the real world." But "real adults deal with reality. That's a maturity that's hard to learn, very often."

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Experts advise talking with others about such feelings—whether one turns to a partner, friend, therapist, online community, or self-help book. Barbach says that Oprah offers some great tools, for example.

But they agree that a key prescription for someone who feels stuck is to do something new.

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"People feel stagnated when they're in these entrenched roles," Dardashti says. She suggests that people stop to notice their partner's interests and ask questions about those things. Try to freshen the relationship with new activities and surprises to find the balance that she says so many women seek—a stable, yet challenging relationship in which they feel accepted and heard.