When Wives Can't Sleep, Marriage May Suffer

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Marriage, its a piece of shit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jack of WV 11:35AM January 30, 2013

I agree with VT of KY.....likely it was the MARRIAGE keeping the women up at night....so it's the marriage affecting the sleep quality, not the sleep quality affecting the marriage....

Tired in RI of RI 11:18PM June 15, 2011

"Perhaps it should be recommended that men develop their ability to express emotions rather than putting the onus on women to keep their marriages afloat by suppressing their emotions"
Right, but let's translate "expressing emotions" into what it actually means here: throwing tantrums like a child because you lack the maturity to consciously rationalize your irritability and don't have the wisdom or empathy to keep it from affecting your spouse.

Mike101 of NY 1:24PM June 15, 2011

I went from taking sleeping pills to taking a hormone cream and it's working. I would like to recommend an article in NYCitywoman.com called "Beating Insomnia"--it had some helpful information. There is a lot out there!

susan huyser of NY 12:52PM June 15, 2011

Silly article... Like others have said, the author did not explore the many variables such as children, medical conditions, medications, etc. My husband complains when he had a bad night sleep, so do I, it is natural.... Hello, knowing you have a long work day ahead of you after tossing and turning half the night can make anyone angry the next morning.

someone of CA 7:50AM June 15, 2011

The article should have specified what was disturbing the wives' sleep. Since these are young professionals with in average age in their early thirties, I would hazard a guess that it may be children in a lot of cases.
In our house, and in many others that I know of, it is the wife who gets up most of the time when the kids wake up at night. That in itself can cause sleep deprivation, and sometimes it is compounded by an inability to get back to sleep when repeatedly interrupted. Parental sleep deprivation can continue night after night and year after year. Many parents do not get a good night's sleep for years. This could definitely contribute to marital stress.

Jen of WA 4:06PM June 14, 2011

Wow that answers a lot of questions. My wife has a terrible time staying sleep and our marriage has really suffered. I thought she was just being a b***h, because I've had sleep issues myself, but I'm never like she is. These issues didn't start til she started having the sleep problems.

Rob of GA 2:31PM June 14, 2011

I just recently did a sleep study to address my serious snoring problem...as it turns out, my wife is a "saint" for not stabbing me to death in the middle of the night. I sounded like I was running a chainsaw while killing sheep!!
I have been on the CPAP machine a little over a week....my wife said I have not snored once. I would recommend to anyone...male or female...if you are having issues sleeping, look into a CPAP machine. Wearing a mask isn't too sexy, but i have more energy and my wife is sleeping as well. Win win!!

Michael of MN 2:28PM June 14, 2011

men snore.women toss and turn.his snoring kept me awake.my toss/turn drove him nuts.we have our own rooms.we both sleep like babies and wake up refreshed.good sleep=gr8 marriage.bad sleep=two cranky people.if one or both of u cant sleep,get seper8 rooms.u can "visit".u can stay the night whenever u want to.but for those nights when one of u is driving the other crazy and u have to get up for work at 6 am-for ur own health and peace of mind,go to another room.it doesnt mean u are rejecting each other,it means ur mature enough to realise that suffering in silence,awake all night,doesnt save ur marriage just because ur in the same bed,the resulting crankiness can weaken ur marriage.i know of several other successful marriages where the couples have occasionally or frequently gone to sleep in a spare room.ps-if snoring is very bad,test for sleep apnea!

lyndsey of NC 1:55PM June 14, 2011

Did they not think to ask wider varieties of people to participate in this study such as Asians, blacks, hispanics... Just asking. I's like the "Feminine Mystique" study by Betty Friedan. Only white women were in this study.
I also have to agree with Laura. This study is seriously flawed.

Pam of MI 1:12PM June 14, 2011