Good Parents, Bad Results

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Contrary to conventional wisdom, good parenting is hard work. Traditionally we learn to parent from the people who parented us. Unfortunately, some of those practices, such as spanking, yelling, and lack of boundaries are not what children need. We have developed a parenting program in Tempe, Arizona that incorporates the research-based principals Ms. Shute discusses and the results our families express have been truly amazing. I would also add that consistency is not only key, it’s absolutely critical to success.

Lynette Stonefeld of AZ 2:14PM June 19, 2008

As a parent and teacher I found this article interesting and engaging. It made me rethink what I am doing at home and how I am interacting with my students at school. Many times as parents we are guilty of reacting first then thinking...it happens in the workplace for all of us as well. Some good tools and advice to think about and to implement into my parenting/teacher skills

Mike of IN 2:35PM June 18, 2008

I have 5 kids ages 7 and under. My husband an I partner on discipline and limits and hold firm. We praise & reward specific actions with our undivided attention toward the well-behaved child (e.g. extra help making a favorite orgami paper airplane).
I'm a child psychologist (PhD) and tend toward 'sure, sweetie, go ahead and do that' parenting. The suggestions in this article are simple, take lots of personal discipline and WORK!

Abby of PA 11:08PM June 16, 2008

I love how people who don't have kids just "know" how easy it is to deal with them.
I wonder what field "Chuck" is in. I'm sure I could make a bunch of suggestions about how he could improve his performance. The fact I never did it before....but maybe saw it a few times on TV means I'm qualified, right?

Debbie of IA 9:15AM June 16, 2008

This refresher course on effective parenting was timely on this Father's Day. Our nine year old daughter just kicked a hole in her door because she was in a 'time out".
The article gave me some ideas on how to prevent the behavior from escalating to this point and perspective on how to deal with it after.
As parents all we can do is 'try, try again'. I will continue to read such articles and use what works for us to help raise my children to be the best that they can be.
Thanks for the insight!

Mary Ellen of NC 12:23PM June 15, 2008

I enjoyed the article and am going to look into the books as a preventative measure (my twins are not even 1 yet).
Chuck seems to be an "in the box" thinker - probably because of his upbringing. How sad. Remain childess, Chuck, we need people like you to do so.
:)
I am also going to recommend this article to my friends. Thanks!

Krystle of MN 12:50AM June 14, 2008

I think the last comment by "chuck" is wrong.
This article is a good one that is well written and full of insight.
Wacking your kids and hoping to knock them straight is an ignorant and foolish position to take.
People like "chuck" should not be allowed to have children or pets.
Great article! Keep up the good work.

Christopher of CA 5:41PM June 13, 2008

Sorry, your article is wrong.
Good Parents does not equate with Bad Kids. If it does, then, the gap is very small.
If you have bad parents, then you have bad kids, simple as that, although I am not a parent, parenting is not voodoo science.
The junk that is in these mags nowadays is overwhelming.
when I was a kid, if we messedup, we got whacked and didnt do it again.
Plain & simple.

chuck of IL 5:21PM June 12, 2008