Bad Marriages Harder on Women's Health

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Unionelderly of 10:28PM December 13, 2009

This is a very interesting article. I have provided a link to it from Wellness for Women (http://women-wellness-40.dailysite.com/info), a site devoted to women's health.

Michelle Hutchinson of GA 9:50PM April 14, 2009

Summaries of the new research out of the University of Utah have been all over the news, but this is the only article I've seen that quotes Dr. Debra Umberson, another expert in the field whose research supports a different conclusion--that both women AND men suffer the health effects of marital conflict. It's interesting how the media has seemingly ignored this evidence, instead favoring the U. of UT study that reinforces traditional gender roles suggesting that the woman's emotions should be a barometer of her relationship while the man should be interpersonally detached.
It's time to recognize that we ALL have needs for love and companionship and are ALL negatively affected when we don't nurture our relationships.

Singletude: A Positive Blog for Singles of NY 7:57PM March 26, 2009

i truly wish i would have looked before i leaped.as the pain and the lies are hard to live with.but ever time i look at our boys i put everything else aside, and try 2 be a better father..

carl b of FL 11:27AM March 10, 2009

AFTER BEING SINGLE FOR ALMOST 20 YEARS AND MARRYING AGAIN , I FOUND A LOT OF SIMILARITIES BETWEEN WIFE ONE AND WIFE TWO , NOW IN DIVORCE PROCEEDINGS , SINCE BOTH WANTED TO TAKE CHARGE OF THE FINANCES OF WHICH THEY KNEW NOTHOING ABOUT , BOTH PAYING 24 1/2 % INTEREST ON CREDIT CARDS AND HAVING ME BAIL THEM OUT EACH TIME . nOW i CAN SLEEP PEACEFULLY AT NIGHT AFTER HAVING BEEN GIVEN A DOSE OF CLOROX IN MY DENTURES TWO DAYS IN A ROW , AND HAVING HER CHILDREN ATTACK ME A 68 YEAR OLD DISABLED PERSON IN ORDER TO PROVOKE THE DIVORCE AS I WAS MILD MANNERED AND ONCE HAD EQUITY , NOW NEGATIVE EQUITY IN HOUSE DUE TO MISMANGMENT BY SPOUSE, NOW LOOKING TO TRADE UP AS IN FIRST MARRIAGE AFTER RECEIVING CITIZENSHIP.

LENNY DWOSKIN of FL 3:02PM March 09, 2009

Social/Cultural turmoil and misunderstanding are probably at the root of "bad marriage". Here is where it explains, extensively, why:
http://www.getmarriedfirst.com/international/

mart of KS 12:00PM March 09, 2009

What an interesting debate! ja here.
I found myself doing a mental "high-five" or "knuckle-bump" with both genders. (And, yes, I'm going out on a limb and assuming there are only two represented on this forum.)
Many of you expressed feelings I would have, could have heartily and justifiably endorsed; feelings generated from younger, painful passages of my life. Many, in fact.
Something in me wanted to feel the same degree of angry conviction--even now. (It's not like I'm NOT an opinionated person, after all...) But, surprisingly, my primary reaction has been more like "Your (my) point is very valid, but so what?"
More important, I think, is this question:"How are you (am I) going to put this experience to good use, before we put it behind us?"
We can't change what happened. We're conditioned to see it as we see it--none of us being terribly objective.
We can, however, in time, choose to move forward in as healthy a manner as possible, learning from our mistakes, and rebuilding the only thing we have any hope of rebuilding, ourselves.
Bitterness, no matter how justified, makes us unattractive to look at and unattractive to be around. And makes it nearly impossible for someone else to love us. Someone healthy, I mean.
Maybe, in the end, it's passage of time more than wisdom that makes any of this possible. Either way, trust in this, it gets better, if you truly want it to.

ja of MI 12:48PM March 06, 2009

Makes sense, but menopause and hormone replacement therapy (HRT) are other factors not mentioned.

JW of TX 12:34PM March 06, 2009

Joe,
I don't think the study showed that men appeared to have a higher rate, but that men did have a higher rate by a large margin. If the numbers were reversed and the headline was "Bad Marriages Harder on Men's Health" wouldn't you wonder?

James of MN 10:03PM March 05, 2009

For Rich of NY and James of MN: I think the point of the article is that even though men appear to have a higher rate of metabolic syndrome (MS) than women, it tends to be due to other factors, such as diet and lack of exercise. From the study, they apparently found a correlation to negativity and depression, that tends to trigger MS in women more than it does in men. That's how I interpreted the information.

Joe of CA 9:42PM March 05, 2009