Facing a Diagnosis of Terminal Cancer

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Philippians 2:27
Indeed he was ill, near to death. But God had mercy on him, and not only on him but on me also, lest I should have sorrow upon sorrow.

Margaret of CA 11:23PM November 03, 2010

My sister have a terminla cancer stage 4 and she start with the pain in her bones I want to know how long she will be with us. the cancer spread an her body.
Please somebody can say something to me.

carlos of CO 9:19PM September 27, 2010

After over 3 years of battling colon cancer i have recently learnt that it has now become terminal and there is no chance of going into remission. I am only 20 and apart from the cancer everything about my life was always normal.. I have a boyfriend who has been so wonderful throughout all of this, but he i'm not sure about whether the news is sinking in. I think because i've been unwell for so long he's just made the assumption that it's going to carry on that way..
I begin palliative care soon, and i'm so worried about how to tell my friends and extended family... Difficult news, and i don't think the news has even begun to sink in for me either, we'll see though.
Wishing all your friends and families well during this tough time too x

Natalie of NY 5:56AM April 07, 2010

I just found out that my boyfriend had been diagnosed with Lung and Brain Cancer. I do not know what to do to helo him. At this point everything is new to him and I can't even imagine what he's going thru. It seems that as soon as he got the news he's been trying to keep me away. What do I do how can I help?

Robin of NY 2:56PM March 13, 2010

I learned last night that my dad has terminal cancer. I am only sixteen. I don't know who to turn to, or how to handle my pain. My parents divorced when I was four, and my stepmom has mandated that my Mom is not allowed to see Dad. I'm scared. I don't know how to act when I see him, or how my brother, who lives alone is handling this. Please pray for us, only God can help us.

Jessica of OR 10:55AM February 26, 2010

One of my favorite people has been battling Stage IV breast cancer for three years now. She just found out there's a group of tumors in her brain that they can't do radiation on because of the number of times they've already done radiation in the same spot. The tumors are tiny now, but they'll grow. And when they do, that's it. It is an incredibly difficult line to find between hope and reality. I think it is a struggle for anyone dealing with terminal illnesses.
And Tony from AL who wrote about your spouse, I've been reading a lot of articles and forums about cancer. I don't think you're alone at all. Not that it makes dealing with it all any easier. Good luck to you and your family.

Nichole of ID 1:57AM February 05, 2010

i,ve struggled for the last six years with my life .i lost my husband and several relatives with cancer ,i thought i couldn,t go on any more then in august 2009 i was giving the bad news brenda you have ovarian cancer i was shocked no lord not again please not again .well i had two surgeries,and now need a third.so i,m takeing life one day at a time enjoying my children and grandchildren .god bless us all

brenda of VT 5:21PM February 02, 2010

Any thoughts about a spouse dying of breast cancer who turns against her husband and tries to allienate their child and friends against her surviving spouse. She did and said everything possible to destroy me! Is this a one time happening or is it taking place in other homes?

Tony of AL 6:07PM January 29, 2010

I disagree completely with the tone of this article. I am a stage IV SURVIVOR of Colon Cancer. I realize that I will eventually die of this awful disease, but for me to think about 'go gentle into that dark night'. at this point in my life is ridiculous.
I am 2.7 years into my walk with cancer. Chemotherapy is keeping me alive at present. My children are young and I fully intend to continue this walk as gracefully as I can for as long as I can.
Why would someone imagine that those of us facing terminal illness are either in denial or willing to throw in the towel. I am neither. I understand my disease, my odds and my chances for life. All are not great. BUT that isn't to say that my life isn't great. I am living a full, wonderful life filled with family and friends.
Please, those of us in my shoes need no further negative, just turn over and die comments from anyone.

Beth Wright of VT 6:25PM November 02, 2009

What a very useful article! I am suffering from melanoma and facing another round of surgery fairly soon. Accepting that this cancer will probably be the end of me has been quite a struggle involving a psychiatrist, clonazepam (for anxiety), a very supportive wife and family, a blog, lots of support from friends and a BIG effort at Buddhist-style vipassana meditation. It has not been easy but it sounds as though my efforts may be rewarded.

Bob B. 1:45AM June 28, 2009