Parents Who Clash More Likely to Spank Kids

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my son, son is being spanked with a belt, quit a ;ot by his step father, what can i do or do i report him?

rebella ohm of WV 3:20AM June 05, 2011

when a parent answers a negative behavior with a negative reaction then our children learn nothing about social skills. The child learns that the strongest, most aggressive person wins. What happens with the x-wife when the child reaches the teen years? When they become bigger and stronger?
it isn't to late at this point to get some help, parenting classes are available through DHS an other agencies.

pamela b of OK 9:42AM August 30, 2010

Spanking is not wrong to do. However, it is wrong for parents to spank out of anger. It has always been my belief that parents should only spank when they have acrefully examined the situation and make sure their emotions are calm and settled. Another advice I have for those who spank never spank a child for something that you have not clearly explained to the child that thy should not do. One example I use is that I taught my sons it was okay to throw rocks in the right places, places that would not cause demage or places that would not hurt anyone. After constantly being reminded of that and they decided to stand in front of a neighbors home and throw a rock and it breaks their window. Would have been cause for me to spank them. My sons are grown men now and teaches their sons the same thing. Teach, Teach, Teach first.

Vickie L of GA 11:46PM August 29, 2010

"The most positive social changes around the world have followed mass improvements in the way children are treated."
Robin Grille, author of Parenting for a Peaceful World, 2005.
"If we really want a peaceful and compassionate world, we need to build communities of trust where all children are respected, where home and school are safe places to be and where discipline is taught by example."
Desmond M. Tutu, Archbishop Emeritus, Global Initiative to End All Corporal Punishment of Children, 2006.
Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak
http://nospank.net/pt2010.pdf
The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson
http://nospank.net/sdsc2.pdf
NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
by Lesli Taylor M.D and Adah Maurer Ph.D.
http://nospank.net/taylor.htm

PDeverit of WA 7:49PM August 27, 2010

I am divorced and my son now three and a half has been hitting his mother since he was a year and a half old. I had tried to get his mother to understand that she should not make her reprimand about his action toward her but about the fact that it inappropriate to hit any one. We separated when he was two and a half and this spring I was preparing his bath and he said he was going to "spank" me. When I had asked him what he knew about spanking he said that his mother spanks him. After a few more questions he stated that he hits his mother and she hits him and puts him in time out. So at this point all he understands is the the biggest person wins. But her reaction does nothing to put an end to the behavior, if any thing it reinforces it as acceptable. My out look is that if the child does not understand why their action is negative action they will not understand the punishment. You have to set the standard of conduct first.

wesley McReynolds of NC 4:06PM August 25, 2010

First off...SPANKING IS NOT ABUSE
My husband and I are good Christian parents and we believe spanking is a good form of discipline if done correctly. We spank our daughter, but not out of anger, we do it out of love to show her that her bad behaviors are not right. The bible says, Spare the rod spoil the child. It you take spanking away, you allow children to become rebellious because they think they will be able to get away with anything. I believe this article is another one of Satan's plans to ruin our children. Parents are no longer allowed to spank children. All the kids I see now that are NOT spanked are the ones who defy their parents and turn into rebellious people. Look at the kids in our public schools. Most of them have behavior issues and parents have no form of discipline skills.

Lisa of CT 11:46AM August 25, 2010

"The most positive social changes around the world
have followed mass improvements in the way
children are treated."
Robin Grille, author of Parenting for a
Peaceful World, 2005.
"If we really want a peaceful and compassionate
world, we need to build communities of trust where
all children are respected, where home and school are
safe places to be and where discipline is taught by
example."
Desmond M. Tutu, Archbishop Emeritus,
Global Initiative to End All Corporal Punish
ment of Children, 2006.
Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak
http://nospank.net/pt2010.pdf
The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson
http://nospank.net/sdsc2.pdf
NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
by Lesli Taylor M.D and Adah Maurer Ph.D.
http://nospank.net/taylor.htm

PDeverit of WA 4:10PM August 24, 2010

I grew up in a houshold where I was spanked but my parents were NOT violent toward eachother. Truthfully, I should have had more spankings while growing up. Since I was an only child I got away with more.lol When I stepped too far over the line by not following the rules, I was spanked. They were not abusing me in any way. That was the only thing that got my attention as a child. They told me they loved me and hugged me every single day so no matter what I did i knew my parents were always gonna love me. when they spanked me I paid attention and tried to not repeat the same behavior again. It taught me lessons. Too often parents are afraid to discipline their children because someone else has an idea of how to raise YOUR child, not theirs. I say to each his own. Each parent has to find what gets the child attention and use that tool as a guide whether its spanking or time out, etc. Each child is different and takes a different form of discipline but IN NO WAY is ABUSE (over use of discipline) acceptable in any way. There is a fine line and each family has to pin point that and remain in control of everything, discipline, rules, fun, etc.

Tina of AR 12:18PM August 24, 2010