How to Identify Suicide Risk Before It's Too Late

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If you wish yourself dead, my boyfriend says it will happen. But I've been wishing for years and still nothing.

Tessa Limits of SC 5:01PM July 07, 2012

I believe that suicide is one of the worst choice you could make because i understand that u are going throught alot, but u should live life there is alot ahead and there is good and bad but ive gone through the same thing and hopefully everything goes good... and you are alrite
Thnxs

Jake of 3:35PM March 30, 2010

For any family that has had to survive being "left behind" the best repair for me was when I just kept looking to help someone else. It honestly gave me resolution on how it was "allowed" for my brother to reach for the 12 guage. It took me 5 long painful years to get the answer but then one night it came. Use the knowledge of what you obtained with that loss. Sell someone life if they are waiting in the checkout lane. I did it and it was my reaffirmation that his death wasn't for nothing. Take a deep breath, look around you, open your ears, then open your mouth. Hold the faith that you WILL be granted the words needed to protect someone who hasn't finished their job yet. Because if you saw their pain, then it became your job to help protect them. People cannot hold fear to reach out and care whether they know that person or not.

Debra Lord of MN 2:02PM March 22, 2010

I am sorry to hear of your trouble. It is, indeed, very hard to live in the situation you've found yourself. But your brother's and parents' problems are not yours – they affect you, sure.
I would suggest you find a meeting of Al Anon/Alateen TODAY. I recently celebrated one year of recovery in Al Anon and can't imagine my life today without it. Google Al Anon to find a meeting in your town.
Take care of yourself and REACH out! There are people who want to help.
God bless.

laura of KY 11:58AM March 11, 2010

Ending your life will not end your brother's behavior nor your parents denial. I have no idea of your age or possible necessity for remaining in contact with your bro. If it isn't necessary, move. Or at least minimize contacts. Protect yourself!! His behavior can't be hidden indefinetly, if only because of the effect on his body. You need someone you can talk to about YOUR apparent misery. If there is no such person in your life, how about school counselors, therapists, church or local help phone lines or other services? It's not your responsibility to see that your brother gets help, but you must take care of yourself!

WAW of TX 10:11AM March 11, 2010

There is an emotional re-framing program, performance based.
I was introduced to it in 1984.
There is a request for Statistical Evaluation... this is from the perspective events are experienced with emotion and these are emotionally learned behaviors.
This different perspective, is worth examining.

Paul Rieker of CA 8:56PM March 10, 2010

Just my 2 cents, Dustin, but find someone who believes you and hopefully your brother knows and trusts and tell them. Don't let your parents 'blindness (or denial) stop you from seeking help for your brother. Imagine if it, God forbid, did happen and your brother died...think of the feelings your parents would have. Suicide leaves many victims and too often, no clear answers. Please don't stop trying to find someone eho will believe you about your brother. Not sure what "cott" is but hard drugs is a precursor--or a possible symptom. Please get help for you and your brother. Don't blow it off as 'attention seeking behavior' or a phase he'll grow out of. I have lost friends before and one of them was saying stuff like that. DO NOT GIVE UP and Good luck!

JimBob of AL 3:33PM March 09, 2010

my brother has been addicted to cott and other hardcore drugs:(.he is not reliable and he stole all my birthday money and spent it own drugs.i dont know what to do i have thought about killing myself.i told my parents but they think he is a angel.WHAT SHOULD I DO?

dustin davis of GA 2:07PM March 09, 2010

i rlly dont know

brad dunn of NV 1:58PM March 09, 2010

Personal pain can be either "truth based" or "lie based". Example: I hit my thumb with a hammer -that's truth based pain - it can be resolved or worked
through (usually) - there's help, there's hope, there's a future.
Lie based pain is the worst! Due to trauma, failures, hurt, etc. we can receive
and believe lies - they seem true, they feel true, there's no apparent resolution
or relief in sight - no hope. This is the human condition and it can be a killer -
killing our lives/relationships/future/etc. This kind of pain can drive a person to
pain killers (drugs, alcohol, addictions, anti-social behavior, etc.) in the hope of
escape. When it gets bad enough and the subject finds no relief or hope then
suicide appears (it's a lie) to be the only solution. I am speaking from years of
personal experience and the suicide of my oldest daughter due to organic
mental illness.
If you are struggling with this scenario or want to help those who are in trouble,
perhaps a friend or family member, I point you to Theophostic Prayer Ministry.
This is a sound Christian Biblical based prayer method which is based on John
8:32 - If you know (receive) the truth, the truth will set you free! My wife and I
have been blessed to see many people set free from hopelessness and despair
following this simple method of prayer. See: www.theophostic.com for details.
This is not a gimic, it is for sincerely hurting people who want to be healed and
free from this kind of misery and despair. The site offers references, testimonials, FAQs, video clips, etc. The results are often described as life giving and miraculous by those who have been helped. Please give this site
due diligence - it can save your or a friend's life! TPM addresses both the psychological and spiritual aspects of the human condition.