Narcissism Epidemic: Why There Are So Many Narcissists Now

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A dire symptom of increased denial of God's existence and His commands.

Rick M of TX 2:51PM January 22, 2012

I was married to a narcissist for 27 years, it was hell. He married me, apparently, because I was a "trophy wife" (good looking to him) and our 4 beautiful daughters as well (God blessed us for good looks) not at all being boastful. We were never enough. He continually engaged in adultery, looking for love to bolster his self-esteem. They say they have great self-esteem, nothing could be further from the truth. Bottom line, in their first 5 years of their life, the foundation of a persons character is built. Unfortunately, the last 3 or more decades, parents have not been there to nurture these precious children. to build them up, impart safety, security, love and establish basic trust. That then, sets them up for a lifetime of insecurity, lack of a sense of identity, and everyone suffers. Bottom line. We fail to realize the value of each child, and the importance of nurturing. We leave that to daycare, or whatever. We lose that opportunity, and they end up in prison, drugs, and a life of self-destruction, and everyone that is in their path. I can only pray that people realize the reality of the reason for the increase in this pathology. The strength of a country is measured by the strength of a family. Just take time to see the new release of a movie "Courageous" and see what we ought to learn. The value Of God and family, and how much better all of us would be.
Our marriage ended in divorce, I had to let him go. Our 4 daughters lives forever damaged as well. God is healing us. I pray people learn this important lesson. Leave out The Lord and Love, and giving up ones selfishness to nurture our families... will change the course of history. PLEASE TAKE HEED.

Pamela Becker of MN 2:21PM January 19, 2012

At a Christmas party this weekend, I saw a 4 year old girl acting like a 16 year old! Every other word was whatever and she loved flipping her hair and rolling her eyes. Also the adults loved her bossiness and when she would call them out. They think aggression/bossiness is assertiveness and an indication of success. They also see pickyness as character. I now know to exclude narcissistic children and their parents from my kids. Imagine 18 years of that behavior.

Vincent of MA 7:36PM December 27, 2011

I have a sister that is truly a 24/7, %100 narcissus. She tormented me an my hole family from the age of 10 to 17 after that we all stopped total association we could take the constant abuse placed on us by her mental disorder. Finding her help was more than impossible she would fight with people constantly verbally and fiscally at times. She is perfect description of a extremely troubled person but the most scarey thin is you would never know it in person until you get IT. To all of the people out there who have an extrema narcissist in their life do the sane thing an LEAVE IMMEDIATELY!

Mark of CA 3:57PM December 07, 2011

Finally someone that has some common sense. I have been saying this for years. I am looking for research on what I am calling a Parenting Fad. Which is to spoil your kids and create narcissistic monsters instead of caring balanced people. I also have noticed that EVERYONE on TV is narcissistic. I tell my boyfriend to "turn the channel I cannot stand to watch these narcissistic asses" after watching a few minutes of reality tv. I had that dx right.

Hcurrie7 of GA 11:07PM November 29, 2011

I found my ex the person I loved and was closet to turn out to be a narcissist, I always new she was diffrent, lil bit of a bitch, but it was mostly with other people, all the signs where there, always blaming me for everything, never taking the blame at all even if it was clear it was her doing. At the end I cought her cheating she blame me, left me and are son for this guy, broke my heart, that one day my life was changed by her and she acted like she was going to the store. I was broken to say the least, its been 6 months now and I ve got better with the no contact thing, if you have a person in your life like this, run, don't talk or try to reason with them they love your pain, get off on it even, show them no love, trust me they will suck the life out of you, keep your self by having no contact. And allow your self to heal. Read all you can about them, so you can never have a person like this in your life again. I see them all the time now there everywhere, be aware be smart run!!

antroneb of CA 4:26PM October 28, 2011

Another thing that seems to contribute to narcissism is the tight chokehold that both parents and teachers have on using physical disciplinary measures. These days, if you spank your child for doing something rude or stupid, you are socially spat on as a "child-beating monster". "The Strap" has also been taken out of the school system. We are now seeing results of that. Children are not stupid. They are born narcissists, and they are also far more intelligent than adults are, really. Not as knowledgeable, but as intelligent. Children these days are conscious of the fact that if their parents or teachers physically hurt them, that they can be punished for it. And they manipulate that. There is no respect for adults because there is no fear of adults. For the mind of an adult, respect comes from good manners and service. But this is not the case for children. Children instead learn how to manipulate those people to achieve their desires, because at their age their Id and their Ego are the most developed; they don't yet have a Super-ego that is developed enough to balance them in a mature fashion. For them, respect comes from fear of sorts. I'm younger, but in my days, it was still possible for parents to threaten children with the "I will write a letter to your parents," gimmick. It was very effective; I never openly disrespected my teachers until I became a stupid, arrogant teenager. But that is another story. :P

Kris 8:59PM September 16, 2011

AL,
Narcissists have a thing call "narcissistic rage" whenever their inflated sense of self bumps up against reality. Really ugly stuff.
You are special, smart and important but there are billions of people on the planet who are all of those things too. Really smart people realize that.
If this trend continues, if justice and fair mindedness give way to give me or else it will be a world nobody wants to live in. That's the tragedy. Smart people get that too.

Lydia of ID 10:57AM September 16, 2011

What's up with the God Speak?! So many self-righteous Psycho Christians out there. They just love to blame something or someone for all the chaos in the world. "Oh, look, he is a narcissist! Gasp! He doesn't have God in his life! Oh, that's too bad," said the Psycho Christian, who claims to be able to turn the other cheek, but instead is quick to point fingers and judge. What about this little theory? Christians can be narcissists too! Because they think their little religion is the most important one than any other religion out there and everyone should be grateful to it. Blah Blah Blah.
Regards,
AL, the proud Narcissist who happily feeds Christians to the lions.

Al of CT 7:46PM July 07, 2011

For some reason or other, all human beings have to be taught to appreciate people and things. Unfortunately, the only way most learn appreciation is through loss. When people are given everything, they tend to appreciate nothing. Perhaps this is why Adam & Eve were so easily tempted in the Garden of Eden. Perhaps this is why we are now in a world where God allows us to experience devastating losses.

Stacey Daniel of GA 1:52PM May 24, 2011