Parental Alienation: A Mental Diagnosis?

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As a women this has happenned to me .I have had a mans experience. I have joint custody but my children do not live with me. It has been horrible what he did to my children. He used my 2 adult children to turn my other 2 minor children against me. He allowed them to do illegal drugs, practice sex in our home.I was out of my home while daughters boyfriend still lived there! My younger children were so confused I did what I thought was best for them. There are still some issues to deal with and my adult daughter, who was used the most, is still practicing the attitude while her siblings have gotten past it. Respect is a big problem in parental alienation.
I could write a book of all the unbelievable situations I faced, the coincidences,the twists of fate.I was beaten, arrested,tested, practically living out of my car. My family ,friends were there for me. I prayed often, and still do .

Debby of NJ 4:10PM April 29, 2010

hi i have been told by my x partner i have gave Parental Alienation Syndrome .
i never speak badly about him he as been seeing her from birth and up to nine, now she is ten,the reason he has not seen her for 2 month is that my child gets scared of him .she scared to say she dont want to go with him.and he takes drugs, she hate me aswell for letting her go as a baby,
she comes back saying my dad said this that, horrible stuff about me, my partner now has been great to her dad drop her there when he cant get a bus or its late. then he tells my child to call him names is parental alien only for farthers and what does it cause.

sheena 10:49PM April 27, 2010

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Edward Steven Nunes of CA 1:33AM April 19, 2010

Many radical feminist groups are opposed to the concept of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS). The reason for this is their hatred toward men and their theft of the concept of feminism. Real feminism is based on egalitarian principles and not on empty rhetoric and misleading missives. I do not care much for statistics especially those that are misleading. Actually there is a book published in the 1950's on how to lie with statistics. Only two years ago, a major newspaper published a factoid that said that one in three women will be battered on that year. That never happened.
PAS is real because of several factors. The courts have often used the ‘tender years’ doctrine to determine which parent gets custody of the children after divorce. The other problem is that women more than men neglect and abuse their children. Moreover, women are overwhelmingly responsible for false allegations of sexual child abuse and this is supported by government findings.
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I often use ‘Urchin’ to determine the most widely read topics on my website. The top three topics are my essays on Abuse, the Signs of Abuse, and Parental Alienation Syndrome. While some people say that PAS does not exist, the overwhelming number my readers confirm that Parental Alienation Syndrome does exist. It exists because these people have experienced its depravation.
Sometimes, PAS is about tax free child support. The more time the payer of child support spends with their child, the less money they have to pay for child support. This means that the parent who receives child support money has less money to spend on themselves and snow-bunnies and Xiana Fairchild’s mother knows about that.
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Edward Steven Nunes of CA 2:25PM April 18, 2010

P.T.S.D. didn't "exist" until it was so far gone that trying to heal those victims was almost an impossible task.
It's just a matter of time. Unfortunately, where will these victims be in society? HOW will they be, emotionally, mentally...?
Nobody cares, I guess, since there's no law. Yeah, makes sense to ME.
Remember "A Few Good Men"
"Where in your book does it tell you what the latrine is...?"
"It doesn't...."
Doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

Serena of TX 7:30PM April 16, 2010

We are going thru P.A.S.
Our daughters feel victimized because their (half)brother has been yanked out of their lives by his bio-mother who is obsessed with her NEW daughter so much that my husband's son is on the backburner of her life. All that equals is "CONTROL". Like a sick relationship: I don't want him, but I don't want anyone else to have him.
This is a horrible, cruel epidemic and IMO anyone who commits this abuse, or even stands by and tolerates it (perpetrators friends, etc) are evil. Plain and simple.

Serena of TX 7:26PM April 16, 2010

2009: A Judicial Guide to Child Safety in Custody Cases
National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges Family Violence Department
Page 12:
C. [§3.3] A Word of Caution about Parental Alienation34
Under relevant evidentiary standards, the court should not accept testimony regarding parental alienation syndrome, or “PAS.” The theory positing the existence of PAS has been discredited by the scientific community.35 In Kumho Tire v. Carmichael, 526 U.S. 137 (1999), the Supreme Court ruled that even expert testimony based in the “soft sciences” must meet the standard set in the Daubert case.36 Daubert, in which the court re-examined the standard it had earlier articulated in the Frye37 case, requires application of a multi-factor test, including peer review, publication, testability, rate of error, and general acceptance. PAS does not pass this test. Any testimony that a party to a custody case suffers from the syndrome or “parental alienation” should therefore be ruled inadmissible and stricken from the evaluation report under both the standard established in Daubert and the earlier Frye standard.38
The discredited “diagnosis” of PAS (or an allegation of “parental alienation”), quite apart from its scientific invalidity, inappropriately asks the court to assume that the child’s behaviors and attitudes toward the parent who claims to be “alienated” have no grounding in reality. It also diverts attention away from the behaviors of the abusive parent, who may have directly influenced the child’s responses by acting in violent, disrespectful, intimidating, humiliating, or discrediting ways toward the child or the other parent. The task for the court is to distinguish between situations in which the child is critical of one parent because they have been inappropriately manipulated by the other (taking care not to rely solely on subtle indications) , and situations in which the child has his or her own legitimate grounds for criticism or fear of a parent, which will likely be the case when that parent has perpetrated domestic violence. Those grounds do not become less legitimate because the abused parent shares them, and seeks to advocate for the child by voicing his or her concerns.

Nancy Carroll of IL 7:43PM April 07, 2010

I didn't know there was a term for this until it happened in our family and I went searching to see if this was a real problem. My son divorced his wife 1 1/2 years ago. He was awarded the children and is the custodial parent of his two children. He adopted his daughter when she was 5 and has supported and taken care of her since she was a baby. The biological father's rights were terminated as he left her when she was 3 months old and never paid child support or had contacted her perhaps twice in the past 8 years.
His ex wife was supposed to pay child support and of course she has not paid a dime since she was ordered to pay, in fact, she quite her job when her wages were to be garnished. Long story short, shortly after the divorce she found the biological father on the internet and introduced her daughter to him without my son's knowledge. Approximately 3 weeks before the biological father came for a visit, invited by the ex wife, my son learned that his daughter had been in contact with him. (the biological father lives in Europe). My son's ex wife also has a live in boyfriend who thinks he has parental rights to the children.
My granddaughter has recently become very hostile towards my son. Her mother encourages her to talk to and be in contact with the biological father. I truly believe that she does this not for the benefit of my granddaughter, but to get even with my son. She wanted joint 50-50 custody even though she had no job and was living with her boyfriend who supported her. Now my granddaughter says she wants to live with her mother. There is so much more that has happened.
My son has been back to court 3 times to try to collect support. His attorney believes that she is going to try to modify the child custody agreement and the attorney is hoping that she will try as he can then bring up the alienation.
This woman has called the police on my son when he came to pick them up after their scheduled visitation. She has broken into his house and he found her upstairs in his room when he happened to go home after taking the children to school instead of going on to work.
I want to report her to Texas CPS. Do I have grounds. They go back to court in another month. My sweet granddaughter has become not only hostile towards my son, but to her aunt and other family members. She was once a sweet and loving and fun loving little girl. Now she is angry and upset and my son tries to help her but she won't let him. She says she can choose to live with her mother when she is 12 in a few months.
I don't want to do anything to make the situation worse. Could CPS be an option?

Rhonda Hunt of TX 12:17AM April 06, 2010

I ended up in an abusive relationship with a much older man who met me on the internet when I was a teenager (that's NOT a red flag!). I lived in fear every day of my life--one day he attacked me and threw the kids & I on the street like trash. We were homeless, and didn't get a penny of support. He is also a wanted fugitive with a history of drug, alcohol and gambling addiction. My chld has made at least a dozen independant reports of abuse since being placed in father's home, and tried to run away 4 times. I am being told it is my fault bc I am talking about abuse & show fear of my ex. I lost all rights to my children and don't know when or if I will see them again... http://parentingabusedkids.wordpress.com/
Family Courts are awarding custody to dangerous, abusive parents, “according to one conservative estimate, more than 58,000 children per year are ordered by family courts into unsupervised contact with physically or sexually abusive parents following divorce in the United States…”. When Family Courts Get It Wrong: The Christian Science Monitor. http://www.csmonitor.com/Commentary/Opinion/2009/1014/p09s02-coop.html
From the Founder of PAS...“The child who has suffered bona fide abuse may very well have enjoyed the experience and will often suffer guilt over such pleasure because the child has subsequently learned that the act is an unacceptable, sinful, or even criminal act.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME AND THE DIFFERENTIATION BETWEEN FABRICATED AND GENUINE CHILD SEX ABUSE 114 (1987).

E.J. Perth of MN 8:19PM April 05, 2010