Pregnant and Depressed? Test Yourself

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Everything i've read about depression during pregnancy applies to me. I don't know what to do and i don't have family to help me through this. I feel like it could be temporary but i don't care. I can't stand the feeling, i feel like i'm trapped in this aching body and can't escape. No one really understands and it frustrates me because i can't talk to anyone about it. They either think that im being a baby and should tough it out. If i could I WOULD, I HATE feeling this way. I have two little boys and i can't take care of them because of my feelings, sometimes, i don't want to be around them because i have low patients with them now, that i will be mean to them for no reason at all. My husband has work and school so he can't help me but i feel like i'm losing my mind. It gets so bad sometimes to the fact that i just want to disappear or abort the pregnancy. I'm only 3 months

Shenika of TN 5:32PM April 18, 2012

Although i am a doctor and although i was completely understanding what is happenening with me but that could not stop my crying and i could hardly define the reason my my crying

Dr. Christine 6:21AM January 05, 2012

For the comment made on October 17th I know things may seem miserable right now I never thought my life could get any worse But it did Two weeks ago Something so horrible happened that it completely ruined me for the rest of my life and there's nothing that I can do about it So ive been so depressed I thought I was going to lose the love of my life and he is also the father of my first unborn son I am 16 wks pregnant as of now I never thought I would be able to have kids and never really wanted to I always wanted to adopt though He has been so supportive and really wants to have this baby more than me (I feel horrible for saying that but with the depression That's just how I feel right now) All I know is that things happen for a reason Whether you want them to or not If you are meant to go your separate ways Then so be it I came from a broken home too Except my parents got divorced when I was 2 yrs old and finally moved out of the house when I was 15 They literally tried to kill each other everyday and I always got the worst beatings out of everyone because I would get in between them to stop them from fighting In doing so They would beat me instead So I had teachers and friends questioning the cuts and bruises constantly I had friends who were even about to call DCFS just to get me away from the abuse All im saying is that if you feel like your children will be better off with the two of you separated Then that's probably the right way to go Especially if your arguments reach that level of intensity I wish you the best of luck and hope things work out for the best for you and your family I will say a prayer for you so that you can hopefully find your way And just so you know I am not much of a religious person But I do believe that showing support to people in need whether it be advice or a prayer Can usually give some sort of comfort and can possibly even help them find themselves if they feel lost at times I really do hope for the best Good luck with your decision

Michelle of IL 4:01AM November 05, 2010

Well ive been married 5 years have a 3 1/2 girl and 35 weeks pregnant i feel like crap things are going downhill i dont think we love each other anymore its moré like were together for the kids its sooooo sad and it hurts alot i dont want to separate ... I come from a broken family its not fun i dont know what to do...I know the right thing to do is go our separate ways but i dont want my kids to blame me like i did my mom although iknow we will be happy if we go our own ways ??? All i ever wanted was the family i never had;/

Ka of CA 8:07PM October 17, 2010

when i was ten weekd pregnant with my first son, my bf (who had ptsd from iraq) beat me up pretty bad, i was so scared of raising a child alone, i told him i was sorry for making him hit me, i put up with his indescretions with other women, all in hopes he would be a good father. i left. i had no job, no house, no car, just my love for my son to be. i moved in with my parents, and helped them around the house. i eventually met a great guy(before i had my son). we became close and have been together over three years, we are now pregnant with our second son. Just keep your head up. even when you feal like u have nothing, keep lookin up. life will get better. your baby will be your will power and your motivation. Dont be scared to go to cse make him pay to help raise the child!

stacy of OK 12:29AM June 27, 2010

I know how you feel hun I am in the same boat with the feelings of worthlessness and fears and stuff of that nature I hate me for feeling this way and I hate me like this.

Elizabeth of VA 7:47AM June 10, 2010

i am 17 i have kissed the boys of my dream but it is all going down hill becuase my best friend likes him too and all my friends i mean i gave him a dolla to kiss me ya i know wrong. but it seemed like i just wanted to try an see if i felt any thing i did but my friend say's if i really love her i would give him up an leave him along i tryed but i cnt i like him to much but i have found out that im pregant with his child idk how to tell my friend i sont know what im going to do

BRIANNA of DE 9:07PM March 25, 2010

I just recently left my boyfriend and father of my child i am 31 weeks pregnant with. He has an addiction problem and i blame myself for not making it work even though it is his problem. All I can think about is how i am living with my mother and having a baby in less than 9 weeks and have no income and nothing to offer my son but love.

Jessica of NC 2:28PM January 20, 2010

I do not understand this criteria for measuring depression because I always seem to have in my mind very solid reasons for feeling the way I do, just no natural way to counteract these negative thoughts or feelings. I am about 34wks with my 4th and my circumstances overall have worsened substantially since my last child 5yrs ago. I actually started an antidepressant the month before I apparently became pregnant, switching to prozac during the 3rd month, even increasing my dosage before I actually discovered I was pregnant at 18wks. I was also over a yr into my use of Adderall for ADHD. When I confirmed my pregnancy but continued my meds it was looked down upon. I have since stopped my meds, partly due to a screw up with my insurance, primarily due to my guilt over what I have already exposed my baby to, but I wish I hadn't. My irritation, anger, frustration and aggression have since increased and my stress level is off the chart. To top it off my husband is trapped in his own depressed world yet in complete denial. As a result I'm even more irritated and unmotivated, angry that I have no support and can't function for my other 3 children. As a result my feelings of immense failure and worthlessness are only perpetuated... But none of it is for "no good reason."

MB of CA 12:41AM September 06, 2009