Coping With Depression During Pregnancy

This is my 4th pregnancy and I have been trying everything to get better but I am really suffering with bad depression.. we lost everything a couple weeks before I found out I was already 8 week now I am 21week pregnant.. Its ahrd because I havent told my husband.. His been stressd out too.. But he just started a new job and it a really good job but im still very depress that I have a risky pregnancy now.. Im stressing because I b4 ont want him to stress more ober me being depress.. Its just so many things.. I never felt this way.. Plus we had to mobe apart from each other because his job is far n his staying at his parents house and im n mine..

I dont know what to do... I have constant cramping.. At times I try to relax but I just cant im to depress..

Suzzy of CA 1:36AM November 02, 2012

Here's a great quiz I came across on Pregnancy and Depression that came up first when I googled those words. Really helped me figure out if how I was feeling was severe enough for me to see a doctor. Pretty short too, give it a look: http://www.w2wlink.com/Articles/Quiz-Identify-Depression-During-Pregnancy-Postpartum-artid74.aspx

Katherine of TX 4:55PM July 14, 2011

I have suffered a terrible prenatal depression, and on the 9th week and 4th day I found out that my baby's heart isn't beating any more... It is extremely important to treat the depression. However, I don't know what caused my baby to die, but I believe that the extreme severity of my depression would be sufficient to cause the lethal outcome. I have developed the plan to beat it next time I am pregnant (God allow it): first, it is essential to be busy. Study or work. Second, exercising will help. Third, if necessary, antidepressants should be considered in severe cases like mine. At the first signs of getting a depression I will go to see doctor right away!!!

I am still carrying the dead fetus in me and I haven't discussed any of that with my doctor, everything is happening very fast. Tomorrow I have an appointment with a doctor, we will also discuss different tests as to why the baby died, among them is chromosome test of the fetus and anti phospholipit in dynamic (a condition at which you develop anti bodies at your baby). I also have a factor V leiden mutation, which means that my blood clogs too fast; however, I don't know how it interacts with a baby you're carrying.

The most important thing is that I firmly believe that my depression has been the result of chemical imbalance, because, first, I am a happy person in general, and second, I feel fine now, even though the dead fetus is still in me.

The symptoms of my depression were the following: I slept too much, lack of interest in things, in life; the feeling of hopelessness, sadness. I cared about the child, however, I was taking prenatal vitamins and ate well. I had extremely obsessive thoughts about my past, I would just dwell on the unfair event that had happened in my life, such as an unfair C of my English teacher, or broken hearts of my past love affairs, and overall unfairness of the life, and silent accusations for God. I would just cry and thing if I died now it would save a lot of trouble for everyone. However, very important I don't feel this way now. Yes, I am very sad about the loss, I am reasonable about it and optimistic about the future, that next time I will be fully prepared to deal with all that. I also feel very depressed once a month before and during my period. That's why I am positive about chemical imbalance as to be the cause of prenatal depression.

D D of MA 5:55PM December 19, 2010

i am 21 years old.the father of my child is 24. i am 4 months. it's my 2nd pregnancy. the father of our child is not with me. and i wanted him to be there throug out my pregnancy. but i got scared he wouldnt'be there. my last relaionship, he wasn't there for me when i was bleeding badly.and the docter had to removed my baby. i got hurt. i just don't want to go throug it again. the father of our child, i haven't seen him in almost a month now.i miss him so much. i got alittle lonly. i talked to my exboyfrind. his family saw me. they told him. now, i dont'know what he is thinking. i am scared.what's really hard is that, i have a mental heahlth problem.i was hoping that i would be happy during my pregnancy. i think he is happy. but i am not sure. i just wanted him to be there for my appointments. he was there for awhile and all sudden, he changed. i thought he would be there for me and our baby during my ob's appointments. i just wanted him to be there. my ex was never there. and i just dont' want to get hurt again. i am really scared. i dont'know what to do. a friend of mind told me to go with the flow. but i am scared. i just don't want to go to all my appointments alone. what can i do?

ophelia of NM 10:16PM February 19, 2009