A Good Parent's Dilemma: Is Spanking Bad?

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yeah amy you idiot

kris Reddy of MT 3:34PM December 02, 2008

If you remember spanking it you obviously learned something from it. My only concern is that spanking hurt you and now you are so dense you know nothing.

peter flumming of IA 3:32PM December 02, 2008

A while ago, everyone was spanked and look how they turned out, they are today's business's owners and leaders so it looks like they turned out good.

Pete Marelli of MT 3:25PM December 02, 2008

Amy, too bad your parents didn't practice contraception. If they had done so there would be one less ignoramus walking the earth.

Alex of IL 6:40PM November 28, 2008

I totally agree w/ you! Spankin' is wrong in every form.

Rachael of AR 2:20PM November 18, 2008

Spanking is important to keep boys in line. Obviously depending on your child it might hardly ever need to happen. It's important for girls to respect the man of the house. I was spanked hard as a girl by father on the odd occasion. All my brothers and sisters respected my father and we both loved and feared him slightly....as a result we're all succesful and we had a very happy and balanced childhood. Don't spank your kids if you're an idiot, in fact don't have kids if you're an idiot. Raising children well is a skill. I was taught (rightly) as a lady to respect ones father and husband. That is the secret for a lady to have a happy life, it's all in the bible.

Amy 6:48AM November 18, 2008

I was rarely spanked as a child, but I feel that I have learned more and am slightly more educated in the areas of child developement than my parents were. I would not dream of striking my two daughters for any reason. There are so many ways to communicate with your child and to let them know that they are valued, whether parents believe it or not it is a humiliating experience to be spanked. I feel that some of the most important values that I want instill in my daughters are self-esteem and compassion. My girls happend to be extremely well behaved compared to most of their friends (whose parents do spank) I think it is very sad to see so many parents diciplining their children with fear instead of respect. I look to the future and hope that I have someday raised loving, responsible and confident young women- that is much more important to me than having obedient children 100% of the time...

heather hughes of WA 6:39PM August 06, 2008

Read your bible! It is the best guide you will ever find for anything in life. Child rearing included. Remember there is a differance between a spanking and a beating!

Ramona of MO 12:33AM June 18, 2008

Read your bible! It is the best guide you will ever find for anything in life. Child rearing included. Remember there is a differance between a spanking and a beating!

Ramona of MO 12:32AM June 18, 2008

I can recall being spanked only extremely rarely as a child. My parents were educated, and my sisters and I were good children. Certainly, my parents weren't child abusers.
However, on the one occasion that my father spanked me for being rude to some of my playmates-- and it wasn't very hard, by the way-- all I can remember is the embarassment and humiliation I felt at that moment. I felt about as small as a mole and would have gladly dug myself into the dirt... and I don't recall thinking afterwards (or now, for that matter), that I learned anything at all from that miserable experience.
There are surely better methods of 'discipline', and in my case, having been especially sensitive little girl, the spanking left a lingering emotional damage that I wouldn't think of inflicting on my own 3 children (whom, I might add, have never been spanked and are among the most polite children in our neighborhood).
Spanking MIGHT help make a parent's point... or it might leave lasting damage to a particularly delicate child. Why take that chance?

M. R. of OH 7:54PM June 17, 2008