Relax! Stress, if Managed, Can Be Good For You

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what i can do to cope with my girlfriend whom i will marry eventually who i need the support to make it thru this. dealing with a diagnosed anxiety disorder and deep depression from having cancer.in remission and have dealt with chemo, a lot os surgery stuff and radiation. i am currently getting out of the military because of this and the disorder.i am also trying to fight the military on this being combat related because i am 33 and the cancer on an average hits 66 year old people and i had noticed a big lump in my throat 5 months into my #rd deployment. i was in iraq 3 times. also i had went thru a drastic change in my life where i was married before in 2005 and she got pregnant while i was in iraq and took a lot of money. not here for some pity party, just need advice because i am dealing with enough as it is and she is not helping in the matter by being distant, our sex life is down the drain, yet we have great sex, but hardly have it and we dont communicate when i want to without beiung overwhelming. well ttyl

jericho of KS 3:15PM May 21, 2009

Something awful happening, such as your child's life being at risk, puts things into perspective, and so many of us feel unecessary stress to challenges, such as stress at work, that not only make things unpleasant, but clouds our judgement, as we don't see the positive aspects of our lives, and what we should be grateful for. Take someone who's driven to become successful with his or her career. Certainly, there's nothing wrong with a desire to succeed. But when it gets unhealthy, such as a person who neglects his family and can't see how good life can be, the person doesn't see what life's about. It's not a catastrophe if your career aspirations fail to become reality. Or take someone who only cares about money. Some people really do believe that a fat wallet and fancy possessions will bring about happiness. But the reality is if your never content, it's harder to appreciate the joys of life. I've been fortunate to have grown up in an upper-middle class family, thus I know that material things won't give me what I really want, a pleasant life, which is a nice problem when your not made out of money. This is not to say that working hard to become a doctor or a lawyer is a bad thing if that's what you want. What I am saying is that if you have it good, or even if life is tough right now, focus on what you can enjoy! Life isn't a competition with others to see who can be the most successful!
That's AS I SEE IT. I'm Mike "Mainer Mike" Brown.

Mike Brown of ME 7:02PM March 03, 2009

stress is good if managed if not it is worsen peoples life.acdemic stress is most ly felt by students .Iwould like to know more about academicstress.

nirmola. of 8:46AM June 23, 2008

Understanding the effects of strss on human beings is extremely complicated and multifaceted. I found a great website that simplifies the subject for the average lay person with straightforward, practical explanations and advise. Go to --www.haplecrone.com --- and put stress in the search engine to see hundreds of good articles on this subject.

Leon of TX 3:45PM June 08, 2008

TOTALLY BIASED OR SHIFTED TO AN APLICATION OF A PERSONS THOUGHTS BASED ON INCORRECT INFORMATION. PEOPLE IN HIGH STRESS JOBS FOR EXAMPLE MEDICAL PERSONNEL WITHOUT HAVING CONTOLS OF A SITUATION AND WITHOUT SUPPORT OF SUPERVISEORY PERSONEL ARE OFTEN MISGUIDED TO A PREMATURE OVERSTRESSED SITUATION.THIS CAN OFTEN AND DOES RESULT IN PREMATURE OVERWHELMING STRESS WHICH CAN AND DOES LEAD TO PREMATURE DEATH , CAUSED OFTEN BY NEURILOGICAL OVERLOAD. THESE IN TURN RESULT IN CARDIAC AND PSYCHOLOGICAL METABOLIC AND VITAL SIGN CHANGES RESULTING IN MANY DEABILITATING ILNESESSES. THIS IS FACT NOT FICTION. VERIFICATIONS BY MANY JOURANALS

Bonnie S Tarmann of OH 2:31AM June 07, 2008

Thanks for these insights Deborah. More research is coming out on the benefits of peer-to-peer support and its impact on stress levels in women (think of the success of Weight Watchers and AA).
My experience being in and leading women's life balance circles, has shown me that more than just about any other tool, ongoing, intentional and deeply meaningful connection with other women via groups, has a lasting and powerful impact on how I perceive and manage stress. Particular on a day-to-day basis.
And as a mother, I'm seeing more and more the ripple affect that taking time for my "self care" has on all of those around me.
I'd encourage other women to reflect on the relevancy of peer-to-peer support in their lives.

Renee Trudeau of TX 10:10PM June 06, 2008

The 5 step plan on pg 4 inspires me to apply these wholesome objectives in dealing with stress as both an opportunity and a danger. My books on Diabetes tell me to avoid stress because it raises blood sugar and this is good advice but your 5 steps are pointing to a method of harvesting some of these stress situations so that they can actually improve my physical actions with respect to making it easier for my diabetes conditions. I had a stressful morning today but my fasting blood sugar was only 95 before breakfast and after the stress of serving a breakfast guest and without taking any exercise, my blood sugar was just 80 mg/dl two hours after the breakfast. So, maybe the fact that all the stress left after breakfast explains the very good low blood sugar reading I got? So, I better take heed and use this good advice - thanks for publishing this article on this very day!!
PS I copyed most of the last pg and will use this as my study guide.

Joseph J Rosenski of IL 12:36PM June 06, 2008

I once decided that Drs. knew nothing about stress.
Later, I read somewhere that the more control one has over his job or life the less stress he or she will experience. I think that might be true.
Most of my life, I have had almost full control on the job. I never knew or felt any stress. On the other hand, I always welcomed the pressure of a challenge. The harder I worked the better I liked it. I was not a workaholic I don't think I was ever driven by stress.
I believe that immagination, challenge and motovation are the keys to mankinds development. Without them we would still be living in caves.
Perhaps some stress would improve my hearing or age related memory.

Frank of CA 4:37PM June 05, 2008