Why Do Women Have Sex?

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You didn't say what a lot of women have sex for, when they hear about a guy with a 10" C**K like mine ;)

Mike of NY 10:38PM April 06, 2013

I hate it when women don't have sex with me and I hate islam. I have always disliked islam and when I dislike something, I will not follow it.

Farhan Ahmed of WA 5:15AM June 19, 2012

In Asian countries, society and religion play a major role in moulding thoughts of women for having sex before marriage. Here, women do not express their desire to have sex with just any one they feel like. Their virginity is considered as property of their husbands. In Asian countries, majority of women have sex only after marriage. The trend and pattern of thought process in this context on the other side of globe are just the other way round. It may sound strange for people in US and Europe, but it is true. I am leaving beside, a minor number of city dwellers in changing countries like India, Pakistan, Sri Lanka, Malaysia, Thailand Nepal, Bhutan, Singapore and China.

V S Saxena of CA 7:08PM June 17, 2010

Love is a drive to have sex

Yobert of SD 5:18AM May 10, 2010

Almost any book with "Sex" in the title will find a market. Because reproduction is said to be the major reason for marrying, it seems the first reason women "have sex" is that it's taken to be part of the marriage contract. My "Depression Kid" generation taught our children to "play fair." That included both husband & wife honoring the marriage promise. Several decades ago, woman wrote a book telling younger women how to make life easier for themselves. They were to find men who whose wives had had time to help their husbands build a good career and HAVE FAMILY ASSETS. The movie "First Wives Club" had that theme & touched a responsive chord with millions of middle-age women. The myth of "The Seven Year Itch" fit perfectly the time frame when wives' bodies suffered the irreversible changes caused by childbearing & lactation. Divorce lawyers may wonder if it would be good to have a law replacing the worthless "alienation of affection" law. Such a new law would fine & jail people of either gender who raid marriages for family assets.

aura dawn veirs of CA 4:14PM May 06, 2010

Almost any book with "Sex" in the title will find a market. Because reproduction is said to be the major reason for marrying, it seems the first reason women "have sex" is that it's taken to be part of the marriage contract. My "Depression Kid" generation taught our children to "play fair." That included both husband & wife honoring the marriage promise. Several decades ago, woman wrote a book telling younger women how to make life easier for themselves. They were to find men who whose wives had had time to help their husbands build a good career and HAVE FAMILY ASSETS. The movie "First Wives Club" had that theme & touched a responsive chord with millions of middle-age women. The myth of "The Seven Year Itch" fit perfectly the time frame when wives' bodies suffered the irreversible changes caused by childbearing & lactation. Divorce lawyers may wonder if it would be good to have a law replacing the worthless "alienation of affection" law. Such a new law would fine & jail people of either gender who raid marriages for family assets.

aura dawn veirs of CA 4:14PM May 06, 2010

Women simply do not have the same sex drive as men and their motivations for having sex are (generally speaking) rooted in their getting something in return for having "put out". Having been married for 22 years and talked to dozens of men on this issue, one theme is recurrent in the discussions...women control and dole out sex in relationships. In their teens and twenties they are fun and enjoyable companions for men. But as they get into their thirties and beyond, they begin the process of weaning their man away from sex. Thus, men who get tired of playing her game start looking for sex outside the relationship and then are blamed for the relationship falling apart. Frankly, I have come to the conclusion that women are fundamentally...evil.

joe of NV 11:46AM April 18, 2010

I have not read this book, but from what Tom of CO. says I don't think I want to. I think he is right there is to much stereotypical ideas in the media on both men and women and I think men should be given a fair shot and not be stereo-typed as well as women. I hate the fact that women are stereo-typed as gold-digging, shallow,size matters and looks are everything creatures. I have been accused of this and It pisses me off because I'm am not like that. If I had been like that I would not have the great husband I have. So as Tom has said everyone is the sum of their experiences and will act in ways that reflect those experiences.

Rebekah hall of AZ 3:04PM March 22, 2010

Well, I can certainly see why married men cheat more
now, than ever b4. As a male I can say this of myself,
I don't want sex from my regular partner if their reasons
have NOTHING to do with the sheer enjoyment of doing it
and being with me. I don't like the BS of the "reward system"
where you get sex if you do chores and none if you don't.
That right there is enough to drive me into having a affair.
Sex bc you feel sorry is also unacceptable. I'll find some
girl who doesn't need to feel sorry. Sex for pitty is really
rank. I can do better than YOU, if that's how high your
opinion of me is? Don't pitty me, i can get sex, and I
don't need you to get it either.
To me the reasons discussed in this book are just more
of a bunch of excellent reasons NOT TO COMMITT to marriage.
These poor married guys got to put up with this crap?
They are being treated like pathetic losers! How much
can your wife possibly love you, if they will hold back
sex to get you to do chores? What are these married men?
Dogs that need to be trained?

DJ Frankee Cee of NY 4:02AM December 27, 2009

I read this book and I saw the same gender-biased opinions that we all see in previous "what men/women want in a relationship/sex/opposite sex" articles.
In articles written by women, the emphasis is on making women look like the logical, sensitive, non-animalistic side of the pair, and men are the predatory, shallow, one-track minded idiots that "just don't get it". On the flip-side, articles written by men portray men as the emotionally evolving, eager to please, non-abusive modern male, and women as the gold-digging, shallow, size-matters, looks are everything creatures.
I am not a doctor. I do not profess to be an "expert" on the subject of women. But I pay attention. What I see in every form of media (TV, movies, printed media, music) is a non ending series of contradictions. Women wnat to be respected for their intelligence and/or social contributions, but the message "Men MUST treat us a certain way, weather we deserve it or not". Men want to be given a fair shot and not stereo-typed as insensitive jerks, but continually show up in the news as abusers, cheaters and rapists. Nothing BUT the stereo-tyical men.
The bottom line to me is there's no "typical" male or "typical" female. Everyone is the sum of their experiences and will act in ways that reflect those experiences.

Tom of CO 1:46PM December 02, 2009