Oprah's One-Sided Approach to Domestic Violence

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To the lady that above who has lost everything, except her kids with no way to support them- I am so sorry. I am so sick of seeing the news where some boyfriend or husband unjured or KILLED is wife or girlfriend, and others-maybe even his own kids, because he is rejected, or got his feelings hurt, or WHATEVER! I did not suffer the extent of abuse that you have seen, but was terrorized, stalked and threatened when I was trying to get a divorce. I waS TOLD since we were still "married" and his name was also on the home, not much I could do. "Did he hurt you"? they would say. Well -"if he hurts you, call us". Tried to get a restraining order, but he hadn't "physically" hurt me yet. I went in 2 wks later with two black eyes and a broken nose! THEN had to show up for court 4 times@! because they could not locate him to serve the warrant!!!!
If I did not show up- it would be DROPPED!!!!! A neighbor who worked for a constable tipped me off that they had picked him up for hot checks, so I THEN called them and said- he is in your jail- please SERVE HIM!!!. He finally served (only) 30 days for the assault and another 30 days for the phone harrassment, concurrently.(I kept tapes and went to police before the assualt, where he would theaten to kill me) Oh by the way - the day he broke in the beat the crap out of me, he called me tried to call me from jail. A friend of mine called the PD to complain, and the policeman told her-" Lady, criminals have rights too!" So there you go. Did he ever pay child support for his two kids(we were married 20 yrs -had one 14, one 4)NO.
Luckily I could still work, and was not on welfare, so I guess too much trouble for the chilc support people to go after him for that. I was just happy when he moved out of state. Again I am so sorry. I will pray for you.

Liz of TX 11:57AM September 06, 2009

Oprah is a blowhard. Always has been, always will. While I don't excuse domestic abuse. I do know that marriage/ relationship is a two way street. Neither party is lilly white and Rhianna I doubt is as innocent as Oprah and her minnions are quick to believe.
However, since "queen" Oprah is going to hold a public opinion court, then at least allow both sides to plead their respective case. In Oprah's cour of public opinion she is the judge, jury, and executioner.
But then again, I don't give a ---- about the "stars" anyway. And people that hang on their every word and deed lack a life. As far as I'm concerned if you live in the limelight, expect to die in the limelight.
I'm convinced both parties are none the worse for wear. They will both be in an enviable position of scoreing a book deal, perhaps a movie will be made about them. I'm sure the spotlight will make both their stock in the entertainment industry soar.
Unlike normal people like Christine Mastin of PA. They deserve far more consideration than these spoiled, adolescent, prima donnas.

David of ID 1:46PM September 05, 2009

and actually know nothing, really, about domestic abuse. But I have a feeling it might be a little like what they say about meth (and some other drugs). You do it once, you're likely going to do it again--maybe for reasons similar to an addiction. You might say you'll unhook yourself from the momentary highs from that kind of blowing up---and it's hard, maybe impossible.
This, I think, is a reason why victims need to not wait around before parting company with abusers.

Muser of NM 4:57PM September 04, 2009