Dr. Ruth Offers Advice on Improving Your Sex Life

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dr ruth i have a problem. im 52 and my sex drive is still very strong,no problems getting things to work (no pills needed ). my girl friend is 46,never had any children and cant as of now. the problem is she has never had a orgasm by plain sex even though she says she has tried. the only way she will orgasm is by oral. what can i do to help her with this. i so want to make her orgasm while having regular intercourse. HELP PLEASE.p.s. this also makes me feel like less of a man ,as i have never had this problem with any other women .

david of NY 10:02AM May 24, 2013

With the rise of bio-identical hormones and the subsequent youthful effects on a woman’s body, having an active and satisfying sex life has become common for women after 60. This is especially fantastic, because women in this age bracket previously viewed this period as an age where their sex life was behind them. Because these women are enjoying a healthy sex life, there are numerous positive outcomes. Most importantly, many women experience a restored sense of well-bring, which even spills over into their physical vitality (e.g., energy, exercise).

When people are in their 60s, they are typically at a tranquil place spiritually because they have a true understanding of who they are and the challenges of child rearing are long behind them. This tranquility coupled with replacement of lost hormones has given women back their vitality and their sex lives. This degree of physical, emotional and sexual well-bring provides the perfect environment for any necessary vaginal surgery. Sometimes it’s tightening (i.e., Laser Vaginal Rejuvenation) to improve gratification. Sometimes, it’s labiaplasty (or Designer Laser Vaginoplasty) to restore the youthful appearance of the vagina (as the vagina, like any other part of the body, ages). Ultimately, options are available to enhance your sex life, even after 60!

Dr. Robert Jason of NY 3:14PM April 25, 2013

Dr. Ruth I would like to know what the difference between a climax and an orgasm. I was told there is a difference. I know it feels good when my man goes down on me. I am 49 and feel like I am missing part of the sexual experience.

Roxanne of NY 9:43PM March 24, 2013

Although I am almost 55, I still get very hot and bothered when I see my friend walking around the house in his skivies, but he shows absolutely no interrest in me as a woman or partner. I have tried everything to change his mind, but he keeps telling me, when I am able to leave, he doesn't want to be to attached as

he has been hurt by the former women that he trusted with his heart.

We have shared his home for nearly 3 years, and he's never seen me loose my

temper, or wake up short tempered or on the wrong side of the bed. We are both under the same sign, but he seems to be on the other end of where I am.

He can be quickly shore tempered, harsh with his oppinion, and insulting.

If I had a choice, On those days that he shows himself mean spirited, I would be somewhere else. I became disabled when I was a child, and have only grown worst with the years, and I was no longer able to do an outside job since 2009.

My husband passed on in Feb.2010, but I'm still fighting to receive disability so I

can afford medical services, and be able to do as he keeps insisting that I do.

I know he does have some feelings for me, otherwise he would have kicked me to the curb long ago. He made a contious decission one week after we met, that he didn't want to become attached to me, but since he wasn't able to find

another place for me to go, he allowed me to stay while I have tried to find the

means to be able to afford a place of my own. If he isn't willing, I won't force him to surrender. I have written several childrens books but without any income, I'm not able to get even one published presently. I don't know enough people with a kind heart that would be willing to assist me in getting up on my feet, and allow me to repay them once I'm there. In the mean time I haven't had the comfort of a man's touch or anything else since Oct.2004. I do hope to find a new love since my heart is being held at bay, but I don't feel it would be right to start dating while I'm living in his home. Please let me know what a totally broke widow can do until that time.

Mel Scruggs of AL 6:50PM January 15, 2013

Dr. Ruth, as a 51 year old woman, I've grown up, esp in my 30s up listening to you. I just wish I'd someone in my life like you coming into my womanhood. Thank you for helping me realize so much. I was molested as a child and raped at 12, but thru the years and women such as yourself, and a counsiler Ms. P. I was fornunate, tho not til I became much older, that these things were not my fault, and with the good fortune of having a couple of experiences have I matured. I just wish it had come much earlier in life. I shall continue to learn from you as long as I have the means to do so.

Ash of AL 6:42PM August 24, 2012

SEX WITH VAGINAL DRYNESS AGE OF 68 NEED HELP WITHOUT EXTROGEN

CHECK MANY AVENUE, PLEASE MY HUSBAND AND I NEED HELP.

SUZYBALDWIN of NV 10:40AM October 06, 2011

HI RUTH :D

Yourmomisanicelady of CO 5:21PM July 06, 2011

I know a guy who's a cheater his name is Danny

Samaria of AR 5:19PM July 06, 2011

I think I should be a sex dr to because I know so much but yet still a virgin!

Karen of LA 5:15PM July 06, 2011

can u explainwhy a vagina gets loose even after a few days.

erin of IA 4:27PM June 11, 2011

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