Parents, Not Kids, Are the Biggest Abusers of Technology

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who was the author of this article?

Ryan of OH 2:21AM October 07, 2011

I'll admit that technology has taken over my life to a certain extent, but not to the extreme, as it has young parents. My own children are totally absorbed in what they see on their i-phones rather than paying equal attention to my grandchildren. It's very sad. My 2 year old grandson was trying to get my husband's attention while he was playing a game on the computer, and when he wouldn't answer he yelled, "Papa, wake up!". My husband has since given up the computer games in favor of spending time with his family. I wish that all parents and grandparents would do the same. The technology related neglect problem has scary ramifications for the future of all generations.

jsmoritz of AZ 5:44AM June 09, 2011

i heart justin beiber

robert gash of MN 12:22PM May 31, 2011

看了半天，烦了，最后只看首行！

任群磊 7:12AM May 30, 2011

your an exception yet you took time out your day to comment...seriously wow...this thing is so stupid i dont know where to begin

SERIOUSLY??? of CA 1:29PM May 07, 2011

Reading this article and interacting(or not) with people these days does not give me a good feeling.In fact it pisses me off quite frankly.It seems every green light is delayed by some self-absorbed idiot not paying attention because of their "device".The soccer moms driving the Hummer with their perfect nails and hair not giving a hoot about their childs activities....sad. I love the exuses too like:"woman today are busier than ever".NONSENSE or "multitasking releases dopamine" spare me, so does exercise. PEOPLE GET OVER YOURSELVES.

Politically Incorrect of NY 6:04PM May 06, 2011

Finally an article describing exactly what I am thinking! I take my son to the park and watch all these parents there not even interacting with their kids. It makes me sick with sadness. People also do not realize the harmful effect texting can have on your marriage. I feel like my husband has his own world that he escapes into. I miss the days before texting when we were a priority!

Kelly of CT 12:56PM May 06, 2011

Thanks for posting that film, it's really powerful.
I've read this opinion a couple of times and I'm still struck by the excuses given for the negligent mother. Apparently she made a favorable impression on the researcher. But the thing that is left out is that the mother is making a Choice to be inattentive to her child. Her child must be more important than some email or text that she is involved in. The occasional exception would be some urgent work matter but that way it is described, is sounds like the mother is consistently 'not there' for her child.
The vid posted below says so much about disconnection in our society.

Tim B of WA 6:00PM March 05, 2011

If I say I love you, I am saying I understand you, I accept you without judgement, and we're involved in something good together. I know I'll never understand you perfectly. I don't understand myself perfectly. I'll try and I'll keep trying to understand you by paying attention to you, listening to you, looking at you, thinking about you. I'll say I accept you if I can say you have a right to feel the way you do just as I have a right to feel the way I do. No fair saying ,"Aw honey, don't feel that way." Much better to say, "I understand how you feel. You have a right to feel that way." I'll be able to say I love you if I understand you, accept you and am involved with you in something good. That all means paying attention to -- you -- in person if possible. Do we owe our children anything less? Let us pray that God continues to understand us children perfectly, to accept us as God made us, including how we feel, and is is more involved with us than we are in ourselves. That is true and God loves us all, each one of us. Amen.

LOUIS SANDBERG of NY 1:01PM February 15, 2011

'she never looks up from her phone'.
I have to take exception to the mother of a 13 year old who cannot pause for a moment to look at her daughter. I am a parent of children, and realize there are times when I am not there for them as I should be. As I grow older, I'm more and more aware, so usually this doesn't happen now.
It's easy to say "I'm overwhelmed". Many of us are so busy these days. Taking time for the really precious things in life should be the priority, always, even if we are not always perfect in the doing of it.

Tim B of WA 10:35PM February 12, 2011