How to Help Kids Handle Holidays in Tough Times

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ah at last, I found your post once again. You have few useful tips for my school project. Now, I won't forget to bookmark it. :)

useful tips of AL 11:47AM January 19, 2010

I learned a lot from this turndown to cherish what i already have. I read again this month my old books to find new feeling. I repaire many things to continue use. I beginning to save coins.I take bus to tavel and have a lot of fun.
Everything changed and I arrange my life in a relaxing way.

Ennis 12:22AM December 29, 2008

I'm giving my kids some "love thing" for Chanukah tonight!

happy mom of MD 11:15AM December 22, 2008

love is the most previous gift.

stephanie of MT 1:00AM December 22, 2008

Thanks for this great post. Not only is disappointment a learning experience, one of the things that parents and kids can learn about it is that it is temporary--fleeting even. This is an opportunity to gain that knowledge so that disappointment won't be feared or avoided like the plague in the future. It comes, it goes, it goes faster if you get busy with other things...
Wish lists are tricky, I'm with you on the minimizing "loot" idea. But I think with the economic situation that when we say we're going to have to "dig deeper" it really is an opportunity to think beyond the list of wishes to think about our kids-- what are they really about? Is there some thing or some activity that would really be a great surprise for them that they might not even have thought of because they were so swayed by the popular commercials on tv? So, yes, we may not be able to do the easy thing this year and buy things on our list, but we may do even better by taking the crisis opportunity to invest more of our emotional energy in our kids.
Disappointment doesn't just happen at the holidays. i write a chapter about disappointment, losing and failure, in my new book; Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking: Powerful, Practical Strategies to Build a Lifetime of Resilience, Flexibility and Happiness. Parents need to help with the language and strategies to help their children become more resilient in the face of adversity-- whether perceived or real.
Tamar Chansky
www.freeingyourchild.com

Tamar Chansky of PA 12:50PM December 20, 2008