Men Are Victims of Domestic Violence, Too

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I was arrested in late 2005 for criminal domestic violence of a high and aggrevated nature(because she was pregnant it was high and aggrevated). Due to no evidence they dropped it to a regulae CDV, the arresting officer even got on stand and said that there were no marks on her and she refused medical attention. I should have spoken up but I was I was assamed to say that I was the victim: She had taken a crowbar to my chest and I was bruised pretty badly. I got custody of my daughter in 2008, and do not receive any support from my ex. In 2009 she assaulted my during a visitation exchange, my mom and step-dad witnessed it. I called the police out to where it happened and filed a report. The police department told me they would not file charges because they did not she where she hit me, and later told me that I needed to grow up. I guess working my a** off and taking care of my daughter was not enough for the police. Even if you do report it the cops do nothing because your a man. The government has betrayed us and given men NO rights.

Brad Lewis of SC 3:22PM April 18, 2010

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Beforehotel of 9:36PM January 04, 2010

I totally agree with all these comments, I too have been falsly imprisoned for two years due to her lieing. Believe me if congress would get there stories streight they might not take sides with women. Hang in there and don't plead guilty too a lesser charge...things get worse on you are considered a criminal and especially for domestic violence convictions finding a job is especially hard...they think your going too beat up all the women who work in a female inviornment.

Juan of ID 7:45PM October 23, 2009

Men are abused, and I am a survivor of domestic violence by my now ex-wife. The justice system has done so many injustices agaisnt me that it has tried to destroy my life. I have had 7 animals get killed, brakes cut, gasoline thrown on my house, phone lines cut 26 times and eventually my house burnt with me in it. The justice system here turns it on the man. Men can not be victims, so in turn not only do we as men loose but my 2 boys have too. I have contacted the Senator, Governor and Congressman, but all say that it is out of their hands or refer me to domestic violence shelter or advocacy. How is this bringing awareness that men are victims, when will this stop, what when I am dead. Where is the HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!
Where do I turn, what resources is there?

shawn of NY 9:49PM May 27, 2009

We have started a new site. http://menarevictimstoo.webs.com/
Please come join us. Bear with us as we get the site up, we hope to provide advocacy and information for abused men and their children.

rebecca jackson of MN 7:26AM March 08, 2009

I've dealt with a very controlling and jealous wife for years. She has called the police several times and I've been arrested and was always found not guilty. Either due to her not appearing at court or either admitting the truth. Never thought it would get to this point. On 7 July 2008 she took it a step further when she decided to make up a horrible incident to the authorities. Am facing several felonies which I didn't committment. I've had to use all of my savings to make Bond and it's like am getting no where. I lost my job for being arrested. I was scheduled to go back in the US Army as a Recruiter but that has also changed due to the arrest and not being able to go in with open charge. She has made up so many lies that it's unreal. I've been discharged from the Reserves and lost another job offer due to me needing to be in the US Army Reserves to have this position. Everything has been turn completely upside down in a day. Have legal representation from a public defender which seems like I'm representing myself. I have everything to support my case but it's like the justice system makes you wait even when they know the warrant as well as the incident report and the victim statement doesn't adds up. I need help if there is anyone able to understand how you came become the victim when they claim you are the suspect.

Jarvis Deon Fudge of SC 2:21PM September 09, 2008

It is really interesting topic and I used to join with one blog that talking about gender and violence.
So now, I please invite all of you to discuss further with the gender blog about all that cases.
In the gender blog I found a lot of discussion topic which related to men commit the harassment to women. No one rise up the case of violence from women to men.
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Khmerman of CA 12:04AM August 20, 2008

We have a library of articles on domestic abuse, several looking at battered men syndrome. Please let us know if we can make these available to you.
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http://www.preventabusiverelationships.com

dr king of CO 7:33PM August 05, 2008

Almost 3 months ago to the day, I called 911 and reported that it was a domestic violence issue. When the police arrived, they arrested me even though my wife had bitten me and hit me with a 15 pound dumbbell. When I told them what happen they didn't believe me. They are attempting to charge me with felony assault. A trial has been set for early September because I refused to accept a plea deal. I refuse to accept responsibility for something I did not do.
My wife has been verbally abusive for years, but it has escalated to physcial abuse in resent years. She has given me black eyes, bloody noses, and fat lips and often done this in the presents of our two children. Since this last incident I have filed for divorce. I am plan to make domestic violence against men an issue that is recognized today. It is all too often not taken seriously and I am fed up with it. I am a medical social worker and when I was in school,domestic violence as it pertained to women was all that was ever discussed. That's a bunch of crap!!! It time to set things straight.

Jeff Turner of OR 3:29AM August 03, 2008

Almost 3 months ago to the day, I called 911 and reported that it was a domestic violence issue. When the police arrived, they arrested me even though my wife had bitten me and hit me with a 15 pound dumbbell. When I told them what happen they didn't believe me. They are attempting to charge me with felony assault. A trial has been set for early September because I refused to accept a plea deal. I refuse to accept responsibility for something I did not do.
My wife has been verbally abusive for years, but it has escalated to physcial abuse in resent years. She has given me black eyes, bloody noses, and fat lips and often done this in the presents of our two children. Since this last incident I have filed for divorce. I am plan to make domestic violence against men an issue that is recognized today. It is all too often not taken seriously and I am fed up with it. I am a medical social worker and when I was in school,domestic violence as it pertained to women was all that was ever discussed. That's a bunch of crap!!! It time to set things straight.

Jeff Turner of OR 3:13AM August 03, 2008