Prenuptial Agreements to Lose Weight, Have Sex

Of course, in every marriage there are expectations of each other. But the chances of a marriage surviving with "if you do this, then - and only then - will I do that..." requirements of each other are doomed from the get-go. A marriage based on meeting such criteria is a business transaction, not a relationship of shared intimacy. At some subconscious level they know there isn't space for honesty or trust, that the "love" is conditional, and therefore, they can't grow any further than their own fears and limitations.

DJW of OR 10:31AM August 29, 2008

First commenter - a few observations:

. There's no NEED for health insurance clauses in prenups. The decision to add them, like like the decision to marry itself, accept or reject a clause in a prenup, or even whether or not to keep health insurance, is subject to free will. And SHOULD be.

. I agree that health insurance corporations & their laywers have cheated their fair share of customers out of their legally entitled health benefits, as well as the rights to have their medical procedures covered, etc. But to jump from A to Z, and conclude that gov't is the solution, is foolish. Remember, such a notion is only the PROMISE of 'greater good', and comes at the cost of liberty, with yet more control ceded to the State.

I grew up in a country with socialized medicine - one of the better systems out there - and yet nobody who wanted decent care would rely on it. (I wound up covered under a private plan that did provide decent options and good coveage at affordable rates. I'm not saying the insurers in this country aren't crooks, I'm just saying there are other ways to deal with the problem than to punish everyone by imposing a totalitarian system on the rest of us.)

. There are many steps short of nationalized health care that would help instantly, such as (1) legislation banning the pre-emptive use of pre-existing conditions and other clauses to play games with the patient's coverage; and (2) preventing insurers from making risky, 'wheeler-dealer' investments with patients' insurance premiums, which they then have to make up by playing both sides against the middle, robbing doctors and patients alike.

. I disagree with the notion that the existence/relevance of this article is due in any way to either 'corporations' (?), or to lawyers per se. The more obvious trend reflected here is our culture's headlong descent into destructive narcissism, combined with our immature desire to have *everything* in our life insured, guaranteed and enforced by court decree. Like government-run health care, for example (which I believe was your gentle suggestion, was it not?).

But of course - I'm totally wrong and off-base here. Our entire culture of selfish indulgence and narcissism would go away if 'only' we had socialized medicine. Forgive me.

RD of GA 8:01PM August 28, 2008

Funny, I am the one (male) that is no longer into the sex. haha. For you guys out there you should include a prenup that says if you are allowed at least 6 affairs a year.

Cafetao of FL 12:54PM August 28, 2008