Along those lines, guard against gossip, Berman says. It's one thing to vent to a friend about your situation, but denigrating your spouse will only rend you farther apart.
And how about trying to prevent the affair to begin with?
Speak up. Talk about what's bothering you. And listen to each other, Spring says. He might keep his feelings pent up because "when he tells her, nothing good comes of it. She's taught him, 'don't complain to me I don't want to hear it.'"
Try to pick the right partner, Fisher says. And once you do, remember to experience new adventures together, she says, so that "excitement and sex are in the home instead of out of the home."