Family Caregivers: Exhausted, Stressed—and Abusive?

My father was in the ICU for over 6 months, not expected to live, during which my mother practically lived out of a waiting room. When my dad was able to come home, blind and with an ostomy bag, my mom cared for him. My mother has always been an alcoholic, and it has gotten worse since she has been caring for my father. They are both in their fifties. My mother has always been verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive towards her children, and towards my father she was all of the above plus physically abusive.

Since my father has been in her care, she stays drunk almost 24/7, screams at him for things that are out of his control, just makes everyone a nervous wreck. All of my siblings, including me, know that talking to her will be like talking to a cockroach, she explodes 10 times worse than she normally is when confronted with the fact she has ever done anything wrong.

My father fears being put in a nursing home because we are all unequipped to care for him, so I am just completely at a loss.

My eldest brother has a family, which they all live at his mother-in-laws, my second eldest brother lives at my parent's house and I live in another state, away from his doctors. No one knows how to deal with my mother, she is a truly mean, bitter, horrible person who will tolerate no criticism on her part. I don't know what to do, she should be in jail for the way she has treated her children and now my father. I do not know who to call, what to do, please, if someone can tell me how to help my parents, please, PLEASE help me.

Lauren of KY 8:49PM December 11, 2010

смефно))))

kazantiprNog of AL 9:15AM January 18, 2010

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konditerNog of AL 9:52PM January 16, 2010

Очень полезная вещь, спасибо!!

SilmPioli of AL 10:13AM November 18, 2009