Some Thoughts on Suicide in Middle-Aged Women
Reader Comments
Yes...I really understand
I sure can relate to many things said here. I am a 47 old single women with no children, execpt my lovely fur faced kids (great dog and cat) which I love dearly. I have many friends in my life that would be sad to know how I really feel about life.
I was laid off earlier this year and find myself lost as to why I am still here on this earth. The battle just seems too much. I had a great career, but now feel there is no where for me to go and just wish I could check out.
Tried love and the married life a few years ago with no success. Wasted my early years on the wrong relationships and time has just gone by. I am attractive, smart, well educated, worked in the HiTech for most of my life. I have really tried to do all the right things since my early 30's. Went back to school while working full time and got my Bachelor's degree and thought I would be set. Always reached for help with my long term depression but feel it is an endless battle.
I think about suicide daily, but am too worried about how my friends would feel if I accomplished it. This and my animals are the only reason I don't go through with it. I was just getting back on my feet after my divorce and then boom- laid off. I sure didn't think this would be my life at this age, as many women have said on this site.
If I had big money I would love to take all of us on a wonderful beach vacation. That is about the only thing anymore that puts a smile on my face (a great vacation). But I know that would just be a temporary solution.
Well thanks for reading and listening as I know many of the women on this site 'get' what I am feeling and talking about.
Yes...I really understand
I sure can relate to many things said here. I am a 47 old single women with no children, execpt my lovely fur faced kids (great dog and cat) which I love dearly. I have many friends in my life that would be sad to know how I really feel about life.
I was laid off earlier this year and find myself lost as to why I am still here on this earth. The battle just seems too much. I had a great career, but now feel there is no where for me to go and just wish I could check out.
Tried love and the married life a few years ago with no success. Wasted my early years on the wrong relationships and time has just gone by. I am attractive, smart, well educated, worked in the HiTech for most of my life. I have really tried to do all the right things since my early 30's. Went back to school while working full time and got my Bachelor's degree and thought I would be set. Always reached for help with my long term depression but feel it is an endless battle.
I think about suicide daily, but am too worried about how my friends would feel if I accomplished it. This and my animals are the only reason I don't go through with it. I was just getting back on my feet after my divorce and then boom- laid off. I sure didn't think this would be my life at this age, as many women have said on this site.
If I had big money I would love to take all of us on a wonderful beach vacation. That is about the only thing anymore that puts a smile on my face (a great vacation). But I know that would just be a temporary solution.
Well thanks for reading and listening as I know many of the women on this site 'get' what I am feeling and talking about.
Yes...I really understand
I sure can relate to many things said here. I am a 47 old single women with no children, execpt my lovely fur faced kids (great dog and cat) which I love dearly. I have many friends in my life that would be sad to know how I really feel about life.
I was laid off earlier this year and find myself lost as to why I am still here on this earth. The battle just seems too much. I had a great career, but now feel there is no where for me to go and just wish I could check out.
Tried love and the married life a few years ago with no success. Wasted my early years on the wrong relationships and time has just gone by. I am attractive, smart, well educated, worked in the HiTech for most of my life. I have really tried to do all the right things since my early 30's. Went back to school while working full time and got my Bachelor's degree and thought I would be set. Always reached for help with my long term depression but feel it is an endless battle.
I think about suicide daily, but am too worried about how my friends would feel if I accomplished it. This and my animals are the only reason I don't go through with it. I was just getting back on my feet after my divorce and then boom- laid off. I sure didn't think this would be my life at this age, as many women have said on this site.
If I had big money I would love to take all of us on a wonderful beach vacation. That is about the only thing anymore that puts a smile on my face (a great vacation). But I know that would just be a temporary solution.
Well thanks for reading and listening as I know many of the women on this site 'get' what I am feeling and talking about.
Yes...I really understand
I sure can relate to many things said here. I am a 47 old single women with no children, execpt my lovely fur faced kids (great dog and cat) which I love dearly. I have many friends in my life that would be sad to know how I really feel about life.
I was laid off earlier this year and find myself lost as to why I am still here on this earth. The battle just seems too much. I had a great career, but now feel there is no where for me to go and just wish I could check out.
Tried love and the married life a few years ago with no success. Wasted my early years on the wrong relationships and time has just gone by. I am attractive, smart, well educated, worked in the HiTech for most of my life. I have really tried to do all the right things since my early 30's. Went back to school while working full time and got my Bachelor's degree and thought I would be set. Always reached for help with my long term depression but feel it is an endless battle.
I think about suicide daily, but am too worried about how my friends would feel if I accomplished it. This and my animals are the only reason I don't go through with it. I was just getting back on my feet after my divorce and then boom- laid off. I sure didn't think this would be my life at this age, as many women have said on this site.
If I had big money I would love to take all of us on a wonderful beach vacation. That is about the only thing anymore that puts a smile on my face (a great vacation). But I know that would just be a temporary solution.
Well thanks for reading and listening as I know many of the women on this site 'get' what I am feeling and talking about.
Reasons are clear for middle-age suicide.
The reasons for suicide in middle age people in the US is clear. Personally I can't understand why any intelligent person would be "baffled" by this at all.
In the past te middle-age population was a time for relative security and happiness. But now, this security has been taken away. There is no such thing as "retirement" any more. My Father was the last generation to retire in our family, he was 42. I am now 46 and there is no forseeable retirement for me!
The events of Sept. 11th has nothing to do with anything, that was years ago, and we are trying to pay the rent for next month.
Another clear factor is the way middle-aged people are regarded in the job market- our "system" isn't geared for employing the millions of over-fortys that need employment, I personally have been trying to get any employment at all for 2 years- but I know a 28 year-old with next to no experience is getting the job! I'm talking about any job now, no sorry, we don't want you.
Depression is not a illness! Depression comes from not being able to escape your lot in life, it's that simple! If you really get down to the brass-tacks of why a person is depressed, you will find a tangible, real reason- not a clinical condition, for the cause.
My tangible reason are: I can't get employment! I can't pay the credit card bills! My car is breaking down! This is why we are depressed. (duh)
And the only way out, it seems more and more, is eating a bullet, and hoping we won't go to a lower level in Hell than we already are here in the US.
can so related
I'm 58, divorced, no children, about to lose my job...and i think of suicide all the time. I have no friends here, and the ones I do are retired and I have absolutely nothing in common with them. I search for quick, painless ways to end my life and my dogs at the same time as there would be no one to take care of her and she's all I have. My life is pitiful and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I'm well educated, well travelled and have spent my time alone. And, now i just don't care anymore...whats' the future? Another job, another move, my dog dies...It's fourth of july and I will be in by myself the entire weekend.
Depression and wanting a way out
I'm mid forties, divorced, no children, family scattered. I fluctuate between wanting to kill myself many days, but then when I hear everybody's stories, I think "I'm not alone." I wish everyone could just come out of the woodwork so we could help each other. There's got to be a way for us women who feel like we've lost out to band together and reclaim our lives. I get this way sometimes, wanting to make something good out of it, then I go back to wanting to leave it all and go to heaven and rest. It's an up and down battle with my mind every day.
depression
being married and having children but no career is not the greatest thing in life either. I have been with the same man for 24 years, my second marriage, his first. I have children and grandchildren. My adult children, they are unsuccessful, unhappy, drink and smoke. My one job in life and the outcome is failure. I loved being a mother, hell I'm raising two of my grandchildren but what will they turn out like? What's the point. I'm not good at anything, my education stopped when I got pregnant at 19 and then again when my son went to prison for burglary. I have been involved with their lives, room mother, team mom but for what?
I'm fat now, ugly, I don't want to continue raising children so that they can hate you when they turn 13 and watch them make one wrong decision after another and have each and every one of the outcomes effect my entire life because I love them so much.
My oldest is 30, then 25, 22. My grandson whom I was raising for 13 years left last month when his mother showed up out of the blue, not even a good bye. My sweet granddaughter is 6. We do everything together but if given the choice in a few years would she leave me too?
Would she even remember me if I left now? I think she would be sad for a few weeks but there is enough of a family network that she would be ok.
I've read the suicidal letters and I feel really bad for everyone else and hope they find some happiness, someone, something.
My husband left a couple days ago, son's going to jail for DUI, daughter is angry most of the time, other son thinks women are emotional crazies if they cry or shout.
I think of suicide every day
I am in my early 40's. My husband left when I became old to him (age of 35). When he divorced me to find a younger woman (he was 10 years older than me), I thought I will be alone the rest of my life. Well it is true. Now I am having career problems due to an impending layoff and not being able to find a job due to my age ( I think so anyway). I will loose my house and face homelessness. I am researching suicide methods and am trying to decide on which one. I want to pick the one that will be certain. I have found that CO poisoning will probably work if I light coal burners in a small room and take valium to sleep through it. I really don't have a future. I have pushed away my family (parents and siblings and I have no children) to loosen any guilt that will keep me hanging on to life I find so much peace with my plan. I advocate suicide. It is my decision and my decision alone.
middle aged women
I'm a white, 49 y/o single (never married, no children) woman. I have to say, it's a bit of a relief to read comments from other like-minded women. Just to put in my 2 cents, all I ever wanted as a teenager was to be a wife, mom and to take care of my family. That never happened, so for 3 decades I've been striving to get educated and to build a career (that I didn't want) so that I could support myself and my elderly mother. Boom - comes a job loss at 45, and now I find myself making the same salary I made 20 years ago at a new job, which took 1-1/2 years to get. It's torture to work for decades and end up nowhere. I'm so jealous of women with husbands and a second income. Yes, I know that being married isn't the end all answer, but let me tell you from the perspective of a single woman. Having that second income would make a world of difference. And women who don't have to work? Well, it's not your fault, but you make me sick. Many of you have absolutely no idea how lucky you are, even if money is tight. Working all week and having no options because your entire check goes to just pay for basics, limited dating options because of your age, no foreseeable way to change your future - what's not to be depressed about?!
