Sex, Lies, and Looks: What Women Think About Deception
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Sex, Lies, and Looks: What Women Think About Deception
People lie because they are hiding something or don't want to be judged or talked about.
The truth will set you free.....Lies will catch up with you. If you don't want to tell a lie don't discuss the matter at hand.
Being seen as a liar is a poor character trait and you will lose good relationships. Eventually you will have no self worth. If you are not honest with anyone else, how can you be honest with yourself. In the end you will never truly be happy.
Comappion -2
I know that what I said about dosen't at firslt seem to pertain to the article. I also want to say that, this same cahrastice of people also creates something else that I've seen, and the solutions are the same - be aware of your fellow people.
I've also seen a lot of women pass up a lot of opportunities that they didn't see that were "right in front of them", as I watched them complain that they had nothing worth working for; things I could tell they would have loved, if only they understood what was infront of them, if they even saw these options at all. Also, this charastic of females is often what leades to them being unaffectionaly called many profane words. As a fellow female, I can say that, at least for me, it's a lot easier to just be honest with yourself and others, because when I know I am life flows smoothly and nealy all discrepencies in life melt away when you do this. Perhapse at first it will be a hard path, a little "rocky" per-say, but it will lead to a very easy path of life with a lot of options. As the cleshe goes "the grass is always greener on the other side"; you can tell people you're someone your not, in weight, personality, whatever, and you can do all you can to make this appearance you've made for yourself as truse as possible, but if it's not you, you won't be happy. Now, if your working toward a goal, and this is what will motovate you, then best of luck, but maybe finding a way where you don't lie to other people might serve you better... perhapse promising instead of lieing and needing to lose 20 lbs over night? I know it's not as slick, but people will respect you and think very highly of your down to earth appraco to matters that bother you of yourself, and will probably be much more willing to support you as you being honest with them will make them feel respected and they may in turn feel a companionship response - if you feel understanding this is taking advantage of someone if you use it, it is not as long as you respect this concept and don't use it for your own means, afterall this is how all good friendships work and flourish. And this is also an underlying foundtion of society.
compassion cont.
Without support or correction of the situation she will remain in this mind-set or "family-preservation". Those girls go and spend their $2,000 they took out of their student loans, and buy a Prada bag each and a few designer dresses for no reason at all. If they had asked her if she was alright when one of the girls saw a tear on her cheach but ignored it and continuted to insult the lady with her ignorent companion, and had instead been compasionate they may have found out all she needed was at the very least a little emotional support, something where a little goes a long way. But she also needs a place to stay - something which they could have helped her brainstorm, durring whihc she might have warned them that the way they are going to spend their money would get them into trouble. And had they told her it's alright, and that she should go get her kids, shes a strong woman, the lady would have gotton her kids, who would then grow up with love and have the dirrection and comfortable home to go home to the the two girls in the bank take for granted. this istuation isn't ecatly the usual, but it's more common than most people think, and in it's form this is quite common. People pass up so many opportunities but shutting out or shutting down their fellow people. You don't have to love everyone, though it makes life more enjoyable, but respecting others might make life a lot better for yourself and those you share your life with. Nothing we have is set in stone and nothing needs to stay the same nor ever does. Apart from that this lady is 2 weeks away from taking the bar, and if she did she would pass with flying colors becaus eof the future she ahs worked so hard to secure for her family. Perhapse she would feel tahnkful enough that she would help those girls when they get themselves into dept they can not pay back spending their money as they do. Appreciating your fellow humans is the best way to tkae this life in stride and make the best of what you have. Afterall, who loves having an empty mansion - isn't the magic of a mansion the fun and love your freinds and fmaily and parties can fill it with? This situation has a little more than the usual, but it's not far off. What about the woman who instead of curling up in her car to think things over rushes home, maybe she's the lady that wears alot of makeup all the time and it always so rude or snippy? Or manybe she's the guy who never looks you in the eye, or that skittish person in the corner, or maybe he or she is the life of the party - always so fun, but when they go home life is no picnic for them. Maybe their in dept and and just too overwhelmed and they just need a fesh outlook on life, or maybe their struggling with the family and it making it hard for them to worka nd if they aren't careful they'll lose their job and if they lose this job they make themselves nearly unimployable as they are currently standing in the company and with education.
compassion
Well, the results match a lot of what I know I have experienced in life. I have to say that a lot of women I know are very uptight about themselves and lie a lot due to insecurity, which makes their lies hard to despute when you talk to these girls about what they have said. It can be very frusterating and I've watched so many of them lie and judge their fellow human, especially females, without taking the time to really think about the situation or to ask others why they did what they did. For instance laughing at the guy who bags their groceries and under their breth call him stupid, and the cashier who knows the guy to have high-functioning autism hears them and so does the guy who's feelings get hurt. Or perhapse they go to the bank and the woman who helps them messes up their chamge that they made to the account, and the change is easily fixable, but is somewhat time consuming. The people who wanted their account changes are going to the mal all day and it's 9 am, and they plan to be out till 10 pm. The girls gripe and complain the whole time telling the girl they have big plans and that they're going to be late for something and she's costing them alot of money. They leave with thier money 45 minutes later than they should have. that night, the girl goes to her truck and curls up. She is scared to go home - if she does she'll get hurt by someone in the family, but if she dosen't go she won't get to see her kids, and he kids need her because she is their only emotional support, and without her, her young kids will be put though a lot of emotional turmoil. And it's not the kid that makes kids tougher, it's the kind that scares every human's heart that doesn't have the support of love of the family. Even though her kids are not in danger themselves, she can see everything she worked hard to teach her kids getting turned around on the them because they simply won't understand - everything she ever taught them is true, but if the kids don't grow up enogh to understand what she has taught them they may never understand this, and without her guidance may fall into bad choices and habbits that could rob them of their lives because of other bad influences in the family guiding the kids down this path. the only reason she never left home was so that her kids could have a roof and a normal life, and she's always been able to protect them till now - her kids mean more to her than she does and this was the only way she could see to do things as right as possible. Those girls that left the bank left this woman feeling completely incapable and she dosen't go home. She now feels she would ruin her kids lives; afterall if she can't take care of a little bank account request, what mistakes would she make with her kids? Any person thinking completely right wouldn't see the situation this way, but she is under high stress and all she sees is what is important to her, distorting her view of the world.
compassion
Well, the results match a lot of what I know I have experienced in life. I have to say that a lot of women I know are very uptight about themselves and lie a lot due to insecurity, which makes their lies hard to despute when you talk to these girls about what they have said. It can be very frusterating and I've watched so many of them lie and judge their fellow human, especially females, without taking the time to really think about the situation or to ask others why they did what they did. For instance laughing at the guy who bags their groceries and under their breth call him stupid, and the cashier who knows the guy to have high-functioning autism hears them and so does the guy who's feelings get hurt. Or perhapse they go to the bank and the woman who helps them messes up their chamge that they made to the account, and the change is easily fixable, but is somewhat time consuming. The people who wanted their account changes are going to the mal all day and it's 9 am, and they plan to be out till 10 pm. The girls gripe and complain the whole time telling the girl they have big plans and that they're going to be late for something and she's costing them alot of money. They leave with thier money 45 minutes later than they should have. that night, the girl goes to her truck and curls up. She is scared to go home - if she does she'll get hurt by someone in the family, but if she dosen't go she won't get to see her kids, and he kids need her because she is their only emotional support, and without her, her young kids will be put though a lot of emotional turmoil. And it's not the kid that makes kids tougher, it's the kind that scares every human's heart that doesn't have the support of love of the family. Even though her kids are not in danger themselves, she can see everything she worked hard to teach her kids getting turned around on the them because they simply won't understand - everything she ever taught them is true, but if the kids don't grow up enogh to understand what she has taught them they may never understand this, and without her guidance may fall into bad choices and habbits that could rob them of their lives because of other bad influences in the family guiding the kids down this path. the only reason she never left home was so that her kids could have a roof and a normal life, and she's always been able to protect them till now - her kids mean more to her than she does and this was the only way she could see to do things as right as possible. Those girls that left the bank left this woman feeling completely incapable and she dosen't go home. She now feels she would ruin her kids lives; afterall if she can't take care of a little bank account request, what mistakes would she make with her kids? Any person thinking completely right wouldn't see the situation this way, but she is under high stress and all she sees is what is important to her, distorting her view of the world.
lying
I think pushy, nosy, people who lack respect for another persons privacy often back the other person into a corner and cause some of the lying. People who do not even want to lie about something in this case feel caught of guard and opt to lie rather than tell someone something that isn't their business in the first place. Idealy one could say "it is none of your business" or "I do not choose to talk about it", but somehow that seems harsh, so we lie. I think many times people truly do lie to protect other peoples feelings as well.
To Lie or NOT to lie: That is the question...
Lying has been a part of some people lives since the beginning of time. I happen to firmly believe its a sin, There is always a way to express the truth with OUT lying. A gentle look or even silence can speak more loudly than words.
i.e. This as a wonderful site.... I like reading the responses...sadly however, to ANSWER the comments is very difficult for me as I am blind in one eye.
May I kingly request my print appear larger OR can some one do it for me?
As I am in 'assisted living' AND have no one to help me, I am at a lose. (I had a brain annie in 2005)
lying etc.
ALL human behavior is manipulation, What we look for is win/win. not win/lose or worse lose/lose.As to lying, i don't know why a person lies, except to better their own position , quite selfishly i might add. Cause most often the lie is found out and the results of that are often more negative then the truth would have been.
lying
I know some folk who lie so much that not only can you not tell when they are lying, the truth seems to really upset them and
cause them physical pain or discomfort in some way,
you can not tell when they are at least trying to tell the truth. I know some that lie even though they have not been asked anything. It seems to come as natural as breathing. These people will lie about visible weather conditions or the time of day while you are looking at the sky or at a watch or clock.
These types of people seem to always be able to find others to side with them and back them up against honest people. They are also more readily believed and very hard to dispute.
I read the above articles and could someone please tell me if this is really normal?
Why do employers seem to favor these types more now than in years past?
Lying/cheating/disrespect/friendship/manipulating
All human beings lie/cheat/disrespect/manipulate: All of these traits are very human behaviors and are part of each of our character make-up. How we choose to use these traits is at our own discretion.
