Being Bullied Linked to Future Psychiatric Problems
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Many kids overcome the trauma of being bullied
While some victims of bullying need counseling, many recover as they get older. I have been interviewing adults who were either bullied, teased or ignored when they were young because of their physical appearance. For almost all of them, the bullying ended after after high school. Those who went to college made friends and turned out fine. I blog on this and related issues. blog.jamesvoconnor.com
Bullying
Columbine 101 blogspot...Lesson One outlines the problem.
columbine 101
The Columbine killers were right by targeting enablers.
Being Bullied
Sorry Nancy, but your comments are all too typical of those who want to feel good.
Life is not easy.
No one has ever eliminated Bullying, have they ?
The reasons for this behavior are obvious, and in your own words.
It starts with kids that are smaller, or have a physical deficency (in the eyes of the bully!)
It occurs in all spectrums.
To wit: I was the only white kid in 3 rd grade .
Want to know what being a pawn is ??
Many times , the victum knows what his/her deficencies are and THAT is the reason for the subsequent mental issues ( " I am not good enough and everyone knows it")
It boils down to always supporting your child and building his self-confidence.
I have heard too many parents berate their children.
( "you are stupid", "When I was your age I xxxxx",
" you will grow up just like your father !" (thats a double bull!))
Now that is real form of Bullying !
For those of you that want to ban bullys from school, or take corrective action--Good Luck
We have it in Sports, in Business and even in our own families. You are looking at a FACT OF LIFE.
Teach your kids how to handle it, arm them with real methods to the challenge and forget the mental hogwash the doctors would have you believe.
Bullying
What ever happened to eliminating the cause instead of treating the symptoms. Eliminate the bullies and kids won't need a lifetime of mental health care.
Been Bullied learned to fight back...
I was small and bullies for many years! As an Army brat we moved every two years and at each new school was a bully to meet! My father returned from Korea and learned of this and taught me to fight! I fought many times and won some and lost a lot but one thing was clear…I got respect!
A lot of bullies were bigger than me and always won but I notice that, like water, they followed the path of least resistance; meaning they picked on those that did not fight back and those that fought back they left alone!
There is an old saying “A coward dies a thousand death a Man only one!” I find the same in life and your article proves it! I have never had issues and I have always faced aggressive acts against me with compromise, I walk away if I can and get violent when it is thrust against me!
Teaching your children to stand up for themselves is a good thing otherwise they will walk through life with low self-esteem and lots of issues! As adults they are walking victims!
Talking and compromise is a good thing but there are dregs in society that only understand one thing and see everything else as a sign of weakness so one must always know and be ready to fight! No right or wrong…just is!
Parents need to be involved and fair
If everyone's dad were like the below poster's (Robert of GA) there would be a lot less bullying. He was extremely fortunate. These days, the bullies will even stand up to adults as they are far more aware that adults cannot physically discipline them without fear of being arrested for abuse. I have known of three of my acquaintances who were pulled into school for false accusations of abuse (one of the kids later admitted that he was getting even with his dad for making him take out the garbage every nite). I have seen kids no older than 14 scream obscenities at adults and stand up to them when the adults would react. The adults would be forced to just walk off while the kids would continue screaming insults. It's a sad world when respect has become so rare....
Redirecting the assault worked for me...
When I was growing up, I was always told my mouth would get me in to trouble. Because of that, I would not say anything and would take what the bullies would dispense. It took a while, but it was my mouth that ended the assault. I started redirecting the put-downs and so on back towards the bully. I found out that when the bully becomes the focus of attention and made to look like an idiot, they leave you alone. I have three sons now and will teach them this type of defense mechanism to deal with the goofballs in their lives.
