Having Children Adds Stress to Marriage
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life after baby
you know life will never be the same as used to be after having a baby. I had terible experience regarding this. enjoy alot before having any child then there will be no more fun.after all for me having or getting a baby means losing your husbands love once and forever.
Parenting, if done right is selfless
I completely disargee with the children and marriage comment. Bringing children into this world and being a parent is the most selfless thing a couple can do. Sure my husband love to have my complete attention and affection for the rest of our lives but he is willing to sacrafice a bit of that to be a parent. Parents sacrafice their own desires every single day to raise children.
A thought
Children add stress to a marriage because they simply add work and responsibilities. Along with children, other things can add stress. Loss of a job, loss of a home or even an illness just to name a few.
Of course kids add stress. I tend to think that couples who do plan to have kids, have taken that into consideration. I hope.
Marriage without kids does not guarantee a stress free life. Kids do not always result in stressful marriage. Majority of the time, people are victims of their own attitudes. How we react to things and how we see things will ultimately determine stress levels in our lives. Having an expectation of stress free and trouble free life is unrealistic, whether there are kids or not. We all will encounter difficulties in our lives and how we choose to handle them is up to us and no one else. Any life can be enjoyed just like any life can be wasted. It is all up to us.
Study - Parent with kids
Someone had to have a study done to know this? OMG we are such a useless country. What a waste of time any person in their right mind knows that adds stress.
Having Children Adds Stress to Marriage
Kids are gift of GOD, and I think kids r strength of relationship b/w two.
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children and marriage
I agree that many people have children for selfish reasons. I think there are a very small minority of people who truly have a desire to be parents for the sake of nurturing and cultivating that relationship. I'd even go so far as to say our culture is very pro-children to the point it really is a social stigma to be married happily and NOT want children. People either feel sorry for you (the childless couple) or think you have poor character (selfish, selfish, selfish OR just not FIT to be parents).
I work in an elementary school and truly enjoy my job with children. I'm just completely content and happy with my marriage the way it is and have no desire to change it. Why does that have to be a negative thing? There is so much peer pressure surrounding this subject, we start to believe it ourselves (oh, there must be something wrong with me, maybe I am just a selfish, unfit person-----then we have children to feel good about ourselves). But do these people truly feel better? I struggle with the negative stigma and realize I'm going to be put on the "outside" of a very child centric society social dynmamic that most of my peers are experiencing.
But for me, fitting in can't be reason enough to have children. So, I'll enjoy that getaway weekend with my hubby and forge a life I can truly enjoy.
Children and Marriage
Speaking from personal experience, this stidy is right on the mark. Children RARELY improve a marriage; in fact, in my they can only hurt a marriage and I don't understand people who say opting not to have children is selfish. I believe the opposite is true.
WHY do people have children (other than the natural instinct to propagate the species)? The theory ingrained from childhood is that the perfect life entails marriage, 2.5 kids, and life in a house with a white picket fence. Not enough people ask WHY they are having children. We KNOW why we get married: because we love someone so much we want to spend out life with them...but do we ever actually ask WHY we have children? Isn't it really selfish and narcissistic to have them? Do we have children for THEIR benefit, or ours? Well, it can't be for their benefit, because they're unborn...so logically, we do it for ourselves. We do it for a number of selfish reasons, like, we want to live through them, or "leave our mark," or have them around to comfort us in our old age.
Marriage is supposed to be about the love between two people; it's not supposed to be about producing children. If you only get married to validate a stud service, then you need to re-examine why you're getting married.
