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9 Notable Findings From a Sex Survey of Men

August 14, 2008 05:34 PM ET | Adam Voiland | Permanent Link | Print

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Здраствуйте! Отличный форум давайте знакомиться :)

Отличный форум, сегодня зарегестрировался, и никапельки не жалею! Мне зедсь очень понравилось

To the 72 year old

to love and to cherish...I just wish somewhere in this world we could find role models,especially among the elderly population. I thought that true love was selfless (putting other peoples desires before your own) not selfish (screwing anyone who let you especially young ones who give oral sex). And someone to fulfill your "needs" Don't you mean your wants? What is this world coming to? And God bless your wife,she must be a saint for staying with a wandering husband

Use it or lose it.

I am 72 yeears of age. I can still perform sexually, but not as well as when I was younger. I do find that pumps help me get things up where I can use it quicker, but I do believe that sex with the same woman, and we have been married for 40 years, is rather boring. I have been with other women in the past years, and they satisfy me more than my wife because they want variety as much as I do. I was involved in the adult film industry many years ago and found that those ladies know a lot more about sex and how to satisfy a man than most women. There are so many things they would do to please me that my wife would never concent to. I would not be comfortable asking my wife to give me oral sex to completion, these women I have been with, and not all were adult movie stars, know what pleases a man and do it without hesitation and finish my climax with and expertise that no others, including my wife, are comfortable with. Those who engage in safe sex with those whom you can trust are far more qualified to help a man achieve satisfaction and I do not mind taking care of their needs either. If they want me to perform orally on them, then I trust them to be safe and clean and we have multiple orgasims together because we are lovers, not husband and wife. I enjoy the company of those ladies who are not embarrassed to ask me to go down on them, but thank them for giving me the opportunity to please them, because I enjoy doing it for them. I know that she will reciprocate and give me oral pleasure in return. Our encounters are just as friends, not lovers. We have no qualms about being open and honest with one another. It is those encounters that keep me alive and I have no desire to stop having sex just because I am 72. I think that men and women should have sex as often as they want it and never deny their partner any sexual pleasure. It only takes a few minutes of your day to get the one thing that satisfies your desires, then you can get back to other things in life. Admittedly, a younger woman is desired since they have fresth bodies and softer skin and firmer breasts to enhance the moment, but most will not have sex with a man of my age because it like making out with their father or grandfather. If only younger women would look to older men ecause we have the experience of many years behind us, we are the best lovers, and we take our time to satisfy a woman better than a younger man who is just into to sex for a quickie and not find out exactly what a woman really wants when she is in need of a good sex partner. Life is just too short not to take advanage of a good sexual relationship, and if it means going to some other woman to achieve satisfaction, then do it. I know it is against the promises we made when we married, but if I ask my wife for sex more than once, and not get a response, then I feel that someone else could better satisfy my needs, and I hers...even for a brief encounter. I much prefer married women as partners, Enjoy!

Mark Brown's comments on Dr Spitzer

Just thought you all might want to know what else Dr R Spitzer said about the supposed converts from homo to hetero sexuals.

"That 86% of the men and 63% of the female subjects emerged from therapy still having feelings of attraction to persons of the same-sex. That is, after therapy they are bisexuals, not heterosexuals.

That sixteen (11%) of the men and 21 (37%) of the women report that they now have a heterosexual orientation. It is not known how many of these had entered therapy as bisexuals and how many had been homosexuals.

"Of the 112 men (out of the total 143) who acknowledged that they masturbated, more than half (56 percent) said they used homosexual fantasies some of the time and about one-third (31 percent) said they seldom had opposite-sex masturbation fantasies."

Lies, damn lies and statistics

There were not enough gay or bi people in the survey to draw any conclusions: "Of the 1198 men and 815 women in a relationship, only 3 men and 5 women reported that the relationship was with someone of the same sex."

"Among those who were not in a relationship, only 22% of men and 4% of women reported being sexually active in the previous year"

Other surveys have shown that gay people or more likely to live alone, compared with heterosexuals, and this combined with widespread ageism in gay culture, means that lack of opportunity may be the main reason for the results.

It would be more revealing and relevant to repeat the survey with a more statistically representative group of gay/bi respondents.

Source: http://content.nejm.org/cgi/content/full/357/8/762

Regards

Paul

Editor, GrayGay.com

same-sex sexual experience stats

Lies, Damn lies and statistics: The survey did not have a representative sample of older gay/bi people: "Of the 1198 men and 815 women in a relationship, only 3 men and 5 women reported that the relationship was with someone of the same sex.".

Also "among those who were not in a relationship, only 22% of men and 4% of women reported being sexually active in the previous year"

Other surveys have shown that gay men are more likely to live alone than heterosexuals and this, coupled with the rampant ageism in the gay community, is the most likely reason - Lack of opportunity breeds lack of interest.

Source: http://content.nejm.org/cgi/content/full/357/8/762

Sex Surveys are More or Less Useless

Sex; sex and aging; sex and psychological health; sex and physical health; sex with long-time partner; sex ad infinitum, separately and integrated, mixed, churned, and turned upside down. Sex is way too complex and way to intrinsic to our beings to be clarified in any way by even the more complex and extended surveys.

racial health disparities not surprising

In the United States, people of color suffer a disproportionate burden of disease. Why is it surprising that black men would report more problems with thier sexual health?

Danger of same-sex activity

Or could it be that being bi-curious indicates deep-seated psychological problems to begin with, and acting on the "curiosity" by engaging in sodomy merely hardwires the psychological confusion.

Dr. R. Spitzer, the highly-respected psychiatrist/researcher at Columbia U., has stated that the longer a man engages in the homosexual lifestyle, the more difficult it becomes for him to change his sexual orientation to a heterosexual attraction to women.

Mark Brown

San Angelo, Texas

Maybe Not So Surprising

Maybe it's not so surprising that black men report more sexual problems than white men, or that more education means more satisfying sex. Both overall health and regular exercise correlate with better sex. But both of these things also correlate with your socioeconomic level.

Black Americans tend to have lower socioeconomic status than white ones. People who spend a long time in school tend to have a higher socioeconomic level than those who don't. And we can argue all day long about causation, maybe it would be more surprising *not* to see a correlation.

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